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Struggling with baby

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pinkflower223 · 13/01/2026 11:27

Hi there I’ve got a 7 month old baby and I’m really struggling I definitely wouldn’t say I’m depressed just severely overwhelmed and life outside of being a mum has been incredibly stressful , i was due to open up a shop, I had to terminate that due to issues with the landlord and an impending court case, I’m trying to manage that whilst look after a baby full time and also work from home and pay my bills ( I own a vintage clothing business) and I just haven’t got any more to give, being a mum doesn’t end and I love most moments but there’s some days when having a 7 month old who crawls and also has started standing and cruising everywhere where my patience is so thin and I shout and I know it’s not fair on him at all but my only outlet is to shout it’s my first response and I hate myself for it the guilt is all consuming, but I just am at the end of my rope and I haven’t got anything more to give, and I feel like I’m not a good mum and he deserves someone so much better, he wakes up still multiple times in the night I’m exhausted, trying to make sure I pay my bills, sort this court case, accept the loss of a shop and future I had planned for us and also the financial loss of that, I feel so crippled with stress that is affecting how I show up as a mum and I hate myself for it

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itsthetea · 13/01/2026 11:28

Ok running your own business is crazy hard as is having a baby

is dad not around ?

thetallfairy · 13/01/2026 11:31

Been there op

I am a single mother

5 days mat leave

It was so so hard

Please don't go hard on yourself

Open up with HV
Get out more

Me time? Xxxxx

pinkflower223 · 13/01/2026 11:35

He is around, but I’ll be honest even when he’s home I’m still taking to brunt of it all and that’s not to discredit him but I do feel like I’m still doing the majority of everything and it’s hard.

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itsthetea · 13/01/2026 11:44

It is seriously to his discredit

Overthebow · 13/01/2026 11:55

You can’t work from home with a baby around without being stressed and not being able to focus on both at the same time. No wonder you’re finding it hard. You need to separate the two so you can spend good quality time with your baby and also be able to focus on work.

pandowo · 13/01/2026 12:04

It’s hard op, I have two DD’s, one is 3 the other 23 months and most days I want to pull my hair out ! Speak to your dh and explain the toll on your mental health

pinkflower223 · 13/01/2026 12:14

@pandowohonestly my hat goes of to anyone with more than one lol I really think I would immensely struggle well definitely right now anyways!

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