Support thread

[Helplessandheartbroke]

Anyone interested in a support thread? I set one up a while ago but it dwindled. Im really struggling atm so I know it would help me if anyone is willing? Also happy to be hear for anyone else who might be of course. Im particularly struggling with past regrets and mistakes I've made and feeling horrendous guilt. I had a break down 2 years ago and im really trying hard not to fall again.

Thanks so much for this. The guilt i carry around pets makes me refuse to have another. Nothing I've ever done has been malicious but I still find ways to torture myself. Some mistakes I made when I were young were quite bad and very immature (think setting fire alarms off drunk at 17) and I've most definitely learnt from them. I just feel like I've made too many errors to be a good person. If that makes sense

Humans have made progress broadly speaking across many things, because we are capable of learning and adapting- we change and evolve

This applies to us in our lifetimes also - our early experiences can impact us and we can carry them around as baggage but they are not deterministic either.

If you are experiencing regret and guilt it suggests you are capable of reflection, taking responsibility for events. Work on forgiveness and recognise who you are now is not who you were then. But you are wise enough about the world/yourself to recognise these ‘mistakes’ are not how to be.

You can always atone if you wish - make a donation to an animal Rees is and be done. Draw a line

Thank you, again very helpful. I do donate monthly to the rspca as I love animals. I can't really make amends for the fire alarm incident or even another incident that I cannot remember (again young and drunk) but I can absolutely realise its not me now, im more than double that age and really need to try and let them go. Drink isn't an issue for me now as I have it in moderation only but when younger I drank in excess and black out. I've definitely learnt from doing that. I dont know how to move on from the incident mentioned above that I can't actually remember what happened. There was a note on the vehicle for me to report to the guide room the next day and I didnt. I was based on a different camp but they had my name and could have tracked me down easy enough if it was anything serious so I guess I have to remember it can't have been that bad....

I can't get in my GP and I've had to come into a meeting room at work as I can't stop crying today. I dont know how to stop this.

I’m so sorry @Helplessandheartbroke that it’s so hard today. Just take some deep breaths, try and ground yourself. Feel your feet on the floor or bum on the chair and take note of what’s going on around you, what you can hear. Just try and give yourself a little bit of space from the thoughts, even if just for a few minutes. It’s ok… just accept this is what it is at the moment.

@Catisheavyonmylap I did exactly that, thank you. I've come to wfh the rest of the day. I dont know what's going on. Its like im reliving every bad thing I've done and torturing myself over and over. The one mentioned on my last post really sticks in my head because I never found out what id done wrong. Then the logic side of my brain says they had my name and would have followed up if it were that bad....