How not to spiral?

[morechaimama]

I am experiencing severe post-separation abuse, having to watch my abusive ex undermining my relationship with my DS10 through coercive control.

I need to hold it together when DS is with me, so as to be able to provide a stable, loving and safe environment for him...but inside I am panicking.

Is there a good way to manage this, not to deny what's happening (to myself) but not to let it get completely out-of-hand and drive myself crazy with what may or may not happen in the future?

TIA.

Have you done the Freedom programme? You might find that useful

Thanks @MildlyAnnoyed I have done it, online, a couple of years ago when I first left XH. Trouble is I naively thought that the abuse would end, but instead it's just different/worse - he's trying to get at me through mistreating our son, which is heart-breaking.

I will have another look at it though, in case I have forgotten something specific that might help, thank you.