Sad about recent move East London - Essex

[Wilis]

I know I should be so grateful, it took a lot to be in the position to finally buy our house but now we’re in I can’t stop crying. Every positive for me has gone, I feel scared of the change. I’m obsessing that I don’t like the area enough for long term. I have two children 8 and 3 and moreso for eldest feel like I’m going to move schools to potentially do the same come secondary as she only has 3 years of primary left. I feel sad like I’m ruining what should be such a special time but London to Essex wasn’t quite what I expected and I’m worried I don’t really know what I want and where we will be happy. I know once the kids start school we could make friends and I’m quite happy in my day to day with my own friends but I’m just worried the area won’t have much to offer my kids and that we messed up. I feel so sad constantly. London isn’t ideal anymore, but I love how easy and accessible it all is and feel there’s more opportunities than our new area for them as they grow teens + and I’m worried I’m not capable enough to really gain independence and make a new area my own. The thought of it makes me feel awful. But when I’m there I feel like what we originally said it’s a good first step.. I’m just obsessing over it it’s a bad area, bad choice and what would the next step be and we’re not even settled in completely.

which area have you moved to?

stanford le hope/corringham. We needed somewhere close to London as partner works in London and wanted a nice first house which we have. The area feels safe, few neighbours already seem nice. I just worry if il want more and I don’t even know what that means. I’m not a city girl surprisingly and the move is definitely necessary I just worry with having children I can’t mess this up because it’s their childhood. I just wanna get it right for them and worry it doesn’t really have much for teen years +.

And where did you live before ?

East London

What opportunities will no longer be available?
I do worry inappropriately about all the London posters who have the belief that nothing will ever be as good as London and present with the belief that the rest of the uk is some horrendous back water!

I agree. It’s not necessarily that I feel London is the best place in the world but this is all I’ve ever known, and just in general there being so many different areas literally ontop of each other. Multiple schools, leisure centres, colleges, even universities. As stated, im not into city life, but a quieter area makes me feel a lot more lonely and isolated but I feel I’d feel that in any areas as it’s my first time ever moving and I dont know if I’m getting it right.