Help and support

[JordanWright]

Hi everyone,
This feels a little nerve-wracking to post, so please bear with me. I’m hoping to find a kind, understanding person for gentle social support — simple things like a cuppa and a chat, maybe a short walk, and just some friendly company now and again.
I live with depression, anxiety and BPD, and I completely understand that this might not be for everyone. I just wanted to be honest in the hope of finding someone who is patient, warm and non-judgemental. There’s absolutely no pressure or expectations — just seeing if a natural, comfortable connection might grow over time.
I stepped away from other social media after some unkind experiences, so I’m reaching out again gently and with care — for both myself and anyone who might reply. If this resonates with you at all, I’d truly appreciate a message. And if not, thank you so much for reading anyway 🤍
Jordan xx

Hi - have you looked at local groups where you are? Locally we have befriending groups (some aimed at an older audience, some for all). It might also be nice to join some local groups, like the WI and you may be able to naturally develop this sort of companionship.

Thank you, I wouldn't be sure where to look... as I'm off all social media - I didn't want to post on here for fear of judgment and rejection, but i didn't know where else to look...
Thank you x

I'm sorry that you're dealing with all that, it must be so tough. It is hard to find social support of the right kind, I was looking for what you are a few years ago. A friend suggested contacting the local Mind branch to see if they could find me a befriender, which I/they did. A really lovely lady became my befriender, but sadly after a year or so stopped her befriending role as she started retraining for a new career.

Not long afterwards, I was matched with a local befriender who's lovely too, and we meet for short walks or the occasional coffee. We mostly talk about general things, but she's also good to talk to about deeper emotional stuff if I need to. She's about 10 years older than me, and has wisdom gained from difficult life experiences. I think I've been very lucky to have had two great befrienders who I've clicked with. I'd recommend contacting your nearest Mind branch to see if they offer this service, or if not they may know of other local organisations that do. I hope you're able to find someone kind and caring to offer you support.