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Feeling suffocated single parent no breaks

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user1485198606 · 30/11/2025 19:04

I am writing this because I feel like I need someone to tell me it's normal to feel this way. I'm a single full time parent to a 9 year old who also co sleeps with me. I feel utterly suffocated like I can't breathe.only alone time is when I'm working. I want to enjoy my time with them but at the moment I'm really not.i do all the things but it's like I'm a robot going through the motions.i feel like a terrible person but don't know where to turn. Father isn't involved but his mum would take my child an odd weekend. I think I need to speak to a professional but I'm scared to do that. Please don't come for me I don't think I could handle much more.

OP posts:
NET145 · 30/11/2025 19:20

Don’t be scared, just go for it! You need to enjoy your life as an adult and being a mum

JetSkiRentals · 30/11/2025 19:22

Can you arrange some reciprocal play dates with school friends so yes you have to host but then you get some free time too! And absolutely ask the grandma to help out.

CandyCaneKisses · 30/11/2025 19:35

Get them in their own bed asap. You’ll feel better for having your own space.

MotherNurtureTherapist · 01/12/2025 10:33

It's normal to feel that way OP. There is so much on your plate and without a break. Being a parent is a full-on job and not having moments where you can relax and switch off will really take it's toll. What makes you scared to speak to a professional?

user1485198606 · 01/12/2025 19:33

MotherNurtureTherapist · 01/12/2025 10:33

It's normal to feel that way OP. There is so much on your plate and without a break. Being a parent is a full-on job and not having moments where you can relax and switch off will really take it's toll. What makes you scared to speak to a professional?

I don't know. It just feels like I'm admitting defeat or something 😔 I know I need to set more boundaries and get them into their own bed I feel that'll help a lot

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ComfortFoodCafe · 01/12/2025 20:17

They really need to be in their own bed op. Co sleeping at nine isn’t normal. You will feel
so much better for it. Just tell them they have to sleep in their own bed from tonight, be firm.

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