Struggling with everyday normal life

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I have a lovely DH, a amazing ds, pets, a good job, a few friends, nice house. We don't financially struggle (not rich but enough) and I can't cope. I am on anti depressants and I get so wound up most days. I WFH and that side of things is to be honest stress free and pays well. But when all the noise comes back I struggle. On the face of it have everything I could want but I just cry alot. I had a pretty bad pregnancy, traumatic birth and quite a horrible post partum. My DH was leaving his job when I was pregnant and I was suddenly out up for redundancy so that time was very stressful as were also moving home but now almost 2 years later I still feel so intense , up tight and can't stand all the stuff that needs doing everyday. Why can't I just be happy, can anyone relate ??

Sorry, I have no advice but can totally relate! It's hard isn't it? X

Do you get out of the house much? WFH and not being around other people definitely makes me feel a similar way.

Yeah I do. I get our every lunch time with the dog. The weekends usually out aswell. Obviously during the working week I don't but I really like that alone time.

I get so wound up most days

What about, specifically? Take those potential threats/unknowns out of your emotional mind, which has limitless imagination, and let your logical brain decide whether they deserve the bandwidth you are giving them. This tool helps but even if you just write down "I am wound up because..." will often defuse the situation.

Hi OP,
Therapist here. I'm sorry you are having such a rough time of things. You're certainly not alone in feeling like this. I wonder if you have had chance to discuss and process your difficult pregnancy/ birth/ postpartum? Those experiences can easily cause a build up of emotions which make everyday life difficult afterwards. Being able to take time to reflect on your experiences may be able to help you move past them so they are not taking so much of your energy in the present day. You may find journaling helpful or talking to a supportive friend or therapist.

I can relate op, I have a lovely life - nice house, 2 DC, a dog, a supportive husband, good friends - but I often feel overwhelmed by the day to day chores which can make me tearful. I've pinpointed that for me it's the responsibility load - since having DC I find the constant responsibility and constant deferral of my own needs very challenging. I can feel tearful on the way home from work thinking about the evening routine ahead, and I think this is because I'm just in a hard phase (2 DC, one a baby and one 3- every thing is a battle with the 3yo and I'm tired from the baby). It'll pass and I believe once they are a bit older, I won't feel this way anymore. I'm trying to let the feeling wash over me with a belief in things being better soon(ISH).

How old is your DC? Could any of this be a factor?

If you have a spare hour please watch Georgia Ede discussing metabolic psychiatry, the title on YouTube is "Georgia Ede MD - What is nutritional and metabolic psychiatry #PHC2023".
She is a practicing psychiatrist, so also a medical doctor, and she discusses here the physical mechanisms in the body and brain that lead to better/worse mental health.
It's an hour, it might help.
Best wishes.

I don't know why my link didn't work but here it is (several hours later!)

https://www.getselfhelp.co.uk/docs/ThoughtRecordSheet7.pdf

Just normal things. I really struggle to leave the house in a mess so I am forever tidying and it gets me down. The noise from my boisterous toddler and the dog running around sometimes over whelms me and I have to leave the room (obviously when they are safely with DH). General everyday stuff that just takes up all the time, the dropping at nursery, walking the dog etc. I know it sounds silly but I feel like I never sit down and have that down time I need. Good advice completely, it's not worth the bandwidth at all.

@whyyy321 you have hit the nail on the head, it's exactly as you are describing..he has just gone 2 and I love him to bits, he is not really the problem. It's just everything together. It's sounds so stupid

@MotherNurtureTherapist yes I have had therapy twice since the birth. I didn't find it all that helpful sadly . I don't feel as bad about it all now but it was bad enough for me to stick at 1. Thanks for your advice x