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Feeling down and don’t know what to do about it

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hl8 · 23/11/2025 20:00

I am a mum of one and have been with her dad since we were 16 (now 29). I love them both but I feel like they don’t appreciate me and everything I do for them. I am the only one who does anything in the house, I work part time and am on minimum wage and I pay all of the bills, the food shopping, the school uniform and everything else my partner doesn’t help with any of this. (We’ve spoke about it before and it goes nowhere) I spend allot of my day at home as I work in the evenings and am always cleaning, cooking or doing something the make them both feel comfortable and happy at home but as soon as they both get home from school and work they dump their stuff for me to put away and the house is upside down within minutes.

During mine and my partners relationship we have never been out and done something together which I have spoken to him about and he says he’s worried he will lose me if I go out and am “exposed to other men” I have always been faithful to him but he hasn’t always been faithful to me. He goes out allot and has lots of friends and I don’t have any friends at all and I can’t help but feel jealous of him. We don’t spend any time together and during the evenings when I’m home I sit on the sofa and he sits on his PlayStation, I have asked him to come and sit with me and watch a movie or something but it always ends up in an argument.

I am starting to feel really down and stressed and am starting to think about other men as well which is worrying me as I do not want to be unfaithful but am feeling really lonely and unappreciated. I don’t know why I’m writing this post or what anyone can say to me but need to get my feelings out.

OP posts:
Eyesopenwideawake · 23/11/2025 20:28

What does your partner bring to your life?

(And please don't say "he's a good dad").

Forget about other men for now, think about your happiness and the happiness of your child. That's your focus.

SingingOcean · 23/11/2025 20:28

I’m not surprised you “feel down” living in these circumstances.

Oblahdeeoblahdoe · 23/11/2025 20:35

Are you saying he keeps all his money to himself? What on earth does he bring your life?

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