Past work bullying

[ByLemonFish]

3 years ago I left my job due to being bullied by line manager and home manager. HR were worse than useless. Looking back I should have just walked out instead of trying to fight, it was only a minimum wage cleaning job. After 6 months sick leave I did leave and set up as a self employed cleaner. I retired at the end of March this year, mainly due to health issues , physical not mental health problems.
I'm loving being retired, love being at home with my little dog, cooking, gardening, keeping on top of housework (which I actually enjoy), reading.

My daughter, who doesn't live with us and my husband keep telling me I need to get out more and join 'clubs and activities'
I've looked at various activities but keep putting it off. It occurred to me last week that the experience of being bullied at work and realising people I thought were my friends actually weren't has affected more than I originally thought. Im quite happy at home.
I'm helping an elderly friend and his sister declutter his house following a stroke, I occasionally chat to a neighbour, chat to other dog walkers.
Guess what I'm really asking is am I the only retired person happy being at home? Is it really necessary to be busy joining 'clubs' in retirement?

Don’t you have pre-existing friends that you see that are nothing to do with your past job and experience of bullying?

No. I moved to a new area and was working full time so never really made friends here.

But older friends from your old area?

I suppose my point is that while I don’t think anyone needs to dash out and immediately start nine new hobbies and volunteering roles purely because they’ve retired, your life currently sounds quite isolated. If you’re hesitant to be around other people because the bullying has permanently affected you, I can see why your DH and DD are concerned.

My old friends are a 2 hour drive away. My closest friend died almost 2 years ago. My family live a plane ride away.
Yes I see your point.
There's a pilates class available on a Wednesday morning, maybe I should make the effort and give it a go

If you are genuinely happy as you are then tell your husband and daughter that you no longer tolerant bullies, in the work place or at home.

Yes, I am genuinely happy being at home. I started work at 13 in Woolworths as a Saturday girl lol. Worked as a waitress during my years at college. Had a lifetime in childcare, which I loved but it was hard work. I left that in 2018 due to back problems. So I'm enjoying having some much needed "me time"

That’s a big stretch, based on the facts the OP has provided. There’s no evidence her daughter and husband are ‘bullying’ her by encouraging her to consider out of the house activities now that she’s retired, and as she doesn’t have any local friends.

She is of course entirely at liberty to say ‘I’m thoroughly enjoying being solitary now, but by Easter/the summer/next autumn, I will probably feel like branching out more.’ I can see why they may worry about whether the unpleasant workplace bullying has led to the OP turning in on herself permanently. And bluntly, I wouldn’t want to be someone’s sole social/emotional conduit, however much I loved them — I think it can put a lot of pressure on a relationship.