Feeling lost

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I hate to be making another post, but I am struggling. All my family are in bed. I’ve been on sertraline since my DD was born due to PPD. I’ve weaned down from 300mg to 50mg. But now my brother has died. I feel so lost without him. He was severely disabled and although i wasn’t his full time carer, he lived with us and now he’s gone I feel like I’ve gone. My doctor has suggested I up my anti-depressants again but I feel like that’s tackling a symptom not a cause.

I have a great family but they’re all also very affected by my brother dying, and I don’t feel like my friends are understanding how this is impacting me. I’m trying so hard to stay afloat but I don’t think I can. I want to be a good mum and a good wife and increasing my antidepressants feels like I’m failing them all over again.

I just feel so alone and I don’t know how to force myself to feel and be better

Have you tried some talking therapy?
also, you wouldn’t be letting ANYONE down by upping your antidepressants, do what you need to do x

I have, I’ve had the same therapist for thirteen years. I’m wondering if I need to move onto somebody new as I don’t think we’re really tackling my issues anymore. It started off as therapy for my eating disorder and has moved onto the other things I have been through but even though she’s my ‘safe space’ I’m not sure if she’s helping now

It may well be worth seeking a new therapist as if you’re not moving forward on issues then something should probably change. I had a similar issue when I kept going back to a therapist who I found very useful post divorce (went to her for several years after) but actually when I needed support ok grief and trauma she wasn’t a good fit. Different therapists have different skill sets and our relationships with them change over time.
please also consider if you’re putting pressure on yourself to feel ok when you really shouldn’t be expected/ expecting to be feeling ok right now after all that’s been going on. Be really kind to yourself xx

Thank you, I really appreciate it. I think I’ll find a new therapist and see where I can go from there. I’m trying so
hard to pretend everything is okay and I’m moving forward but I feel like I’ve stalled. I just want to curl up into a ball and cry! x

Don’t deny yourself some crying time, it’s really important.
it won’t feel like this forever lovely, nothing is permanent. Take care and let us know how you get on xx