I’m in a dip. Help please

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I’m a very good faker, no one will have a clue that I’m struggling.

I can’t cure my loneliness. Single parent. No time off. Endless nights in alone. I dread weekends. They are so mind numbingly boring. I don’t have many friends but that would surprise people to know.

When I do have free time when kids at school, I do make sure I do stuff for me, exercise, adult learning stuff, see the odd friend - but it’s not enough and it’s the evenings I can’t bear.

Winter fast approaching is worrying me too.

I don’t want the rest of my life to be like this, filling voids and distracting myself from my misery.

I’m really sorry to hear you are struggling. Try not to think about the rest of your life, just take it a day at a time. Sending you a big hug x

Thank you x

It won’t always be like this. I felt similar when my children were younger and I was on my own. Be kind to yourself and recognise how well you are doing in getting through every single day. Might it help to reach out to a friend or family member and tell them how you really feel? I did and was surprised she was in a similar frame of mind but was scared to admit it. We then made more of an effort to check in on each other and spend time together when and if we got the chance. I hope you’re ok and things seem brighter soon x

Very kind words, thank you too. I hide a lot. It’s how I cope so when I crash I don’t know who to tell.

It is difficult managing the evenings. Do you have any hobbies, doing crafts? Can you get a babysitter and go to an evening class ?

the best thing I did when I was alone with 2 little ones, my neighbour sat and I started a 6 week cake decorating course. This went on to another and another eventually I was able to become self employed decorating cakes for a local baker.

i also found that I filled my alone time at home by doing all the house chores. I started helping at the school 3 days a week which meant my days were so busy and the evenings spent doing chores when the children were in bed,