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Ex husband..my girls father - is back in their lives

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Tashazoie · 11/10/2025 20:14

My ex husband, father to my girls
(aged 22 and 18) is back in their lives after 4 years of having no contact and sporadic contact before that.
Im somewhat happy for them, but I cant help feel like im pushed out and un-supported.
He was abusive towards me, stabbed me, strangled me etc and also cheated with my sister.

Ive struggled in relationships since our spilt in 2011, some again have been awful, hence why I'm somewhat happy they have their dad back...because ive failed to give them that mum&dad situation.
I just feel like im now non existent, he and his new wife and his parents are giving my girls everything they want materialistically and also doing things together and I'm struggling because I work so much.

Growing up, We were all inseparable and I worked everything around them, jobs, spare time etc.
Now he's back, I barely see them and I hate how they know the things he put me through, but have just dismissed it like its 'the past'
Its mentally killing me.

OP posts:
ninjahamster · 11/10/2025 20:15

Do your girls know what he did to you?

blankcanvas3 · 11/10/2025 20:18

If they know what he did to you then I feel very sorry for you and I have no idea what on earth they’re thinking. He’s doing this to maintain some semblance of control over your and your emotions.

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