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Feeling down - supermarket trip

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M2024 · 01/10/2025 15:22

Went to the supermarket today and as I parked in the parent and child bay with my 14 month old I got out to get him out and I hear a couple arguing walking towards their car which is parked next to mine even tho they have no child with them, I turn to see what the noise is and looked for about a second and then carried on getting my child out, as I do that I hear the guy saying ‘what the f are you staring at’ I hear him say this I’m not even looking at them at this point, Then as I’m about to shut the door after getting baby out he is by his drivers side door and I say you can get through I’ll wait, and then I also said ‘for the record I wasn’t staring’ I probably shouldn’t have said anything but I’m literally solo parenting almost all the time, my baby isn’t sleeping well and I am struggling emotionally
He then got in the car screaming and shouting
My husband was with me and our relationship is really not at its best, my husband didn’t have a clue as to what went on, he got out the car as this guy was mouthing stuff from his car and automatically my husband thought I was in the wrong, I explained the whole thing saying I didn’t stare, I looked back as anyone would if they heard shouting etc but only for literally a second
How is this ok ? I feel so down as it is and my husband couldn’t care less, my husband has always done this, he never sides with me even if someone else has been rude or disrespectful
But most of all, can people not just be nice ? We’re all struggling with something, is it ok for people to be rude and disrespectful and we’re just supposed not say anything ?
am I wrong in how I feel ?

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Lighsoy · 01/10/2025 15:27

My husband was with me and our relationship is really not at its best

very clearly OP this is just too of iceberg of a very unhappy marriage. Don’t get distracted by loons at the supermarket. You have bigger fish to fry dealing with your marriage

Youlittlerascal · 03/10/2025 09:38

Sending you healing and a hug. You did nothing wrong darling girl and you are better than all these people. Don't mind them.
Give your lovely baby a big hug. Any young mother is the real hero and that is you. 👍👍

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Nantescalling · 05/10/2025 11:33

I can't decide who is worse, the guy feeling guilty about disturbing the peace due to his unhealthy relationship or your husband automatically blaming you. Can't really win can you except the other guy is out of your reach but your DH isn't. Get him in line !

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