To quit job?

[Elvisbaby321]

So I’m currently in two minds any advice support would be Lovley I currently work as a carer on night doing 5 nights a week so over 50 hours a week I’ve done this for 6 years however my mental health has got extremely worse as time has gone on I told my doctor a few months ago that I’m genuinely struggling and not coping she advised a referral to mental health which has been done but is taking a lot of time and weekly appointments for a catch up.

I have done this and felt no better I’m still having panic attacks still feeling this low mood and just in generally feeling like giving up I am on anti depressants but there just not touching me which my doctor knows.

I have regular emails from work complaining of things I’ve forgot or things I’ve done wrong today i had one of these emails litreally before I went into my gp I burst into tears as soon as I got in there and started having a panic attack I couldn’t breathe and basically told my gp I didn’t want to be here anymore.

she sat me down and calmed me down and basically put me on. Sick leave from work for 5 weeks and referred me to the mental health team as a emergency I agree with all of this she believes work is the cause has anyone left a job with decent pay because of mental health? I genuinely believe I need to leave this job and it is the cause of it I don’t feel I can go back even the thought causes me to panic I’m terrified the only reason I’ve clung on is cause the pay is half decent.

I’m scared I’m not gonna pay my bills and I won’t cope and thinking about going for a debt relief order with my wages currently all I’m doing is paying off the minimum payment each month I’ve done that for three years.

has anyone else been in this situation? Would you leave a half paying job for mental health

I have. Spend the time you are signed off putting a plan together. You say you have a lot of debt. Stepchange https://www.stepchange.org/ can help you. Once you get things into a more controllable state, you should feel less panicked. You will also have time to look for a new job and explore your options.

I know it seems scary and insurmountable, but if you take it a step at a time and work through your plan, you will get there. It takes time, but you can do it.

Thanks for your kind reply and judgement I just genuinely don’t feel like I can cope anymore I’m not even sure what else to do I’ve gone back and fourth over this for months whether I should quit or not I feel like I’m now at breaking point

Agree with advice above , just wanted to send you best wishes as well. No wonder you felt burnt out 💐

You’ve done nights for all that time? Well you’ve done enough nights. Can you finish this job and find another job that’s not so gruelling?

@Elvisbaby321 no job is worth sacrificing your mental health for. Once you get help and some breathing space, you'll be able to make a balanced decision. The flip flopping back and forth doesn't help. I know it doesn't seem like it just now, but you will find your way out of this.

I’m currently on the sick for 5 weeks and my gp has advised to look for something else because of how badly the job is affecting me I don’t think I will be going back I think I’m done and yeah I’ve done 3 nights on two off for 6 years I can’t do it anymore the pressure isn’t worth it but I’m scared because it’s decent money and I’ll be losing it

Im so sorry OP, that sounds incredibly difficult.
if it is the job that’s causing this, then perhaps start applying for other roles ASAP.

Not having an income or a job will cause a different type of stress to your life. Use these 5 weeks to find something else. Not as easy as it sounds ofcourse but worth trying. Good luck!

Oh love that sounds really hard. But also a fixable situation. You sound really burned out.

So in the first instance what you need to do is divide this into now and not now.

Now = take the 5 weeks off work, and rest as much as possible, start by doing whatever you need - if that's sleep, nothing, that's fine, try and eat healthy, then as you feel calmer do some light walks, maybe see a friend for coffee, or go to an exercise class. Getting a blood test to check for deficiencies like vitamin D as you have been working nights. Money = have a look at mental health breathing space (see MSE) where I think you can get permission to pause your debts and bills. Also step change. Even getting a friend to sit and go through the calls with you. Do an assessment on Turn 2 Us to find out what benefits you will get if you leave your job = should get rent and council tax covered while you look for something else.

Not now = everything else. Just make lists for these things, make a list of what you need to do to get a different job. I promise you there is a different one out there with better conditions. Even if you need a stepping stone job to get there.

Thankyou so much for your kind words I think because I’ve worked in the same place for 6 years it’s upset me it feels my my management are against me where I have got on with them in the past but after a recent disagreement it feels like things have changed.

i think I’m definitely going to leave and take a long break possibly not look into working until January x

Take some proper time to rest, and if you need more time, you can ask your GP to extend your sick leave. Then when you can, look for another job. You'll be much better off in the long term after you've left your current one. It sounds like a nightmare. For now focus on feeling better. Sending virtual hugs x