Narcissistic Personality Disorder

[GoodnightKiss]

Anyone else have experience of living with someone who has this? Dp thinks he is suffering from it but I think it's ME who's doing the suffering.

It's possible I have this as part of my mental health problems...what do you have to put up with?

Difficulty making friends as either he thinks he is better than others or that they don't like him, thinks he has to have the best of everything - art, cookers, fridges, cars, clothes, ties, shoes, anything and everything. Obsessed with history as it is "stable and there" (!?). Worst of all, inability to face up to problems, relationship or work, so runs away - literally. Sometimes for days. Inability to ask for help. Suffers from terrible low self-esteem, shame and self-loathing, yet also arrogant, critical of others and pompous. Needs constant affirmation, praise and admiration. If he doesn't get it, if relationship is going wrong - arguing, wahtever, he shuts down and tends to look for sex (don't know if he actually has)or certainly fantasise about sex with multiple partners. Doesn't "know who he is." many other things. Any of it ring any bells with you?

Behaviour or a fantasy of grandiosity, a lack of empathy and a need to be admired by others. As indicated by at least five of the following:

Grandiose sense of self-importance.
Fantasies of and preoccupied with beauty, brilliance, ideal love, power, or unlimited success.
A belief of being special and unique and can only be understood or a need to associate with people of high status.
A need for excessive admiration.
An unreasonable expectation of being treated with favour or excepting an automatic compliance to her / his wishes.
Will use others to achieve her / his goals.
Lacks empathy.
Believes others are envious of her / him or is envious of others.
Contemptuous or haughty attitudes / behaviours

here are the DSM criteria, hope this helps.