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Are you happier now or when you were half your current age?

38 replies

OneUmberJoker · 26/09/2025 13:24

Now more money more freedom

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OllyBJolly · 26/09/2025 14:06

Much happier now. I was a in a very dark place 30 years ago.

What I would say is that living through that bad time made me the person I am today and I'm quite proud of that.

AndresyFiorella · 28/09/2025 20:25

Equally miserable both. Feeling more despondent now though as I used to believe things would get better.

louderthan · 28/09/2025 21:26

I’m miserable now and I was miserable then. The difference now is that I can afford private therapy.

CarpetKnees · 28/09/2025 21:32

Ooh, tricky.
Half my lifetime ago I was newly married and at a very happy time in my life, but I have to say I am also very much enjoying this phase of life too.

I don't think I could choose.

MyPinkTraybake · 29/09/2025 22:08

22.5. I'd quite like to go back as I think oh how little I knew! But would say I feel more achievement about my life now.

Blondiney · 29/09/2025 22:12

Give me a time machine!

Blondiney · 29/09/2025 22:13

AndresyFiorella · 28/09/2025 20:25

Equally miserable both. Feeling more despondent now though as I used to believe things would get better.

This resonates. Misery without the luxury of hope is utterly brutal.

SilkiePenguin · 29/09/2025 22:18

Half my current age was really good, engaged to now husband, in London going to lots of parties, got job I much preferred which paid well, owned my own flat. Now is also good. In my dream cottage with squirrels and lots of lovely little birds, beautiful garden, lovely husband, lovely holidays, great cat and chickens and 2 lovely children grown up now.

ItstheHRTpat · 29/09/2025 22:19

If I could have the body of then but the contentment both in myself and my relationship now, then Id be over the moon! But if I have to choose Id say now. I know for certain dh loves me, but I couldnt ever quite settle it in my head all those years ago. I felt like I was competing against everyone, now I know Im not.

OpheliaHamlet · 30/09/2025 17:00

Definitely then (20 years old). So much choice, potential, and endless opportunities. Lots of friends. For once, I was ahead of all my peers - I had the highly sought after career, was living the high life.
Also, I had my youth, and was in the best physical shape I have ever been in.

That said, I’ve always had a habit of looking at the past through rose tinted glasses. In reality: my confidence was through the floor. I was convinced I was going to be found out as a massive imposter - people would realise I knew fuck all about my work.
My OCD was untreated, and controlled a shameful amount of my life!
I was on antidepressants that weren’t working. I was only just managing to keep my self harm under wraps. I had a diet of booze, fags, and cocaine. I had attached myself to a guy, who I went on to waste 7 years pining over (something that he took great pleasure in taunting me about), before he eventually played his final hand, and dated my so called bestfriend.

As for the present. I am forty. The last few years of my life has pretty much been ravaged by very Premature Menopause (I have always had gyne issues, as had PMDD, Endometriosis, Adenomyosis, and PCOS). It’s made my ADHD, which I had previously muddled through, go absolutely haywire, and I feel about as capable as a confused five year old, currently!
I am not able to work right now due to how bad both my mental and physical health is. That is frustrating, but ‘this too, shall pass.’.
However, there’s a lot to be said about getting in there, and actually tackling these issues. While I still feel Hellish, I do believe I can see a possible end in sight. I’m on two antidepressants, one (Mirtazapine), which has transformed my OCD, and issues with ruminating.
Weirdly, I actually think of suicide slightly less than I did, when I was 20.
The best thing about getting older, for me, is realizing how utterly irrelevant a lot of life is. Things that I was previously so worried about, that I lost sleep over, now, well, I simply just don’t give a damn about now.

SuperGinger · 30/09/2025 17:11

I had fun then and now. Different times, I earned peanuts but was having fun and was super pretty, I worked on Brick Lane which actually with hindsight must've meant I was actually quite cool. I only wish I had bought a property round there then but hey ho.

whiteroseredrose · 30/09/2025 17:36

Definitely happier then. I’m now 60 and feel like my best years are behind me. I loved the child rearing years.

DisplayPurposesOnly · 30/09/2025 17:41

Now, although I dont have as much 'fun' as I did then. I'm more settled in the world and have grown a comfortable life around me. I consider myself very fortunate. More money has helped, I earn better now.

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