Sad about kids starting school again

[MonsterBoo]

Does anyone else feel really depressed at their kids starting school again? It's making me so miserable 😞 do other parents feel this way? I see so many saying they are glad they are back which I do understand but I just feel so sad and depressed about it and on the count down to the next time off

I think it's just how chilled it's been! No pressure to get up and rush straight out the house, being able to do what we want when we want not having anyone to answer to. Term time is so mundane and repetitive.

Glad to see there are some people that feel the same as me! I'm already planning October half term, can't wait!

Yes me I am single mum to an only and we have had an incredible summer together I did feel sad for him to got back to school and I do miss our adventures together. Its almost taboo to say this though as most of the parents are juggling full time work and many have little family support and multiple kids so i would never admit this in real life but i 💯 percent get you OP and already planning a caravan break for October xx

Thank you yes I've seen some people have taken offence which wasn't my intention I definitely won't be admitting this irl.

Thought about this thread this morning as I was asked by the checkout guy in the supermarket if I was glad the holiday was over. I said I was sad and I didn’t like it when they went back and pulled a kind of comedy sad face. He laughed and said I was the only person he’d met who had that reaction!

Definitely the minority, I saw a post about there being champagne in the school for parents to celebrate the return, I’d need tissues 😭

I joined a home education group a while back just to see what it was like and they are putting up pics of them on holiday, at the beach, baking, obviously learning is going on as well and I’m just seeing a snap shot but the freedom of it all looks amazing, if only!

Aww that’s lovely OP! I’m a teacher, so lucky enough to have school holidays off. My DC (7 and 4) did attend holiday club a few days due to me working (setting up my new classroom), but it was lovely to be able to spend a lot of time with them and not worry about childcare. There were moments that drove me mad though, like bickering. What’s your secret to stop this, as I would love to know! 🤣 Like you, I absolutely loved the slower mornings and not rushing around so much!

Mine are 4f and 10m. All I’ve heard is bickering, moaning, crying, hunger ever few mins. Let’s not get onto the fighting and arguing. Then there’s the 11+ prep with zero motivation on the could end, so I’ve been nudging and encouraging my ds for 10 weeks straight.

I wish school days were longer, like 9-6pm.
OP must have older kids or kids that don’t misbehave. There’s got to be a few Angel kids out there.

Time to destress!

My kids are aged between 14-8 🙂

My kids do argue I just prefer to have them at home school isn't a break for me

@MonsterBoo I hear you! I find it sad, even though I only have one dc who attends school and other is still home educated. Both were home educated until oldest started secondary. I definitely enjoy having them home- holidays always fly by!

And as I said my most best and happiest time was when they were little before school age! So nothing about their age i loved it when they were little life was much better and happier. I guess we are all different. I find it sad someone wouldn't want to see their kids till 6pm

You aren't alone. I feel sad that my youngest is now full time at school, and i won't have those early years at home back again. That time was precious, and you can have lots of things going on, its not exactly the same is it.
You arent weird to feel like this. Although people mean we'll saying look at the positives, shoving feelings down doesn't help.
Be kind to yourself and take it slowly, its an adjustment. But eventually we will love all the different phases we have to come .
Ps your child is very lucky to have so much love x

The OP has been very light on details. She says she works but that her kids don’t use holiday clubs so who looks after them? Is the oldest babysitting the younger ones (she also doesn’t say how many kids she has)?

When DD was in primary I was either working part time or not working and yes, the holidays were lovely. More of a struggle in secondary for various reasons. I agree that it feels like so much of their childhood is swallowed up by school and preparing to be an adult - they’ve got decades of being an adult, but less than 2 of being a carefree child.

I feel the same OP and I also work too. I hate the mundane rushing around of term time and I think my kids are happier in the holidays too. I like spending time with them. Life is simpler without other kids being mean, stress about parties, homework etc. I hate the rush in the mornings and the lack of freedom.

However I do want them to be educated, which is why I send them.

Because it’s not relevant to the thread? I already said it’s not a competition and sorry you have taken it personally or felt judged because you don’t miss having your kids at home but that wasn’t the intention.

Thank you, seems you can’t feel this way if you work?!

This is not aimed at anyone or to upset anyone, I’m sorry some people have taken it this way. Im not giving my life story just saying I miss the holidays and my kids being home.

How do you juggle work with them
being at home all holidays? Are you a teacher? I think most people find that aspect the most difficult.

I haven’t taken it personally, don’t feel judged and I never said I didn’t miss having my child (just the one) at home, certainly not during the primary years. You seem to have not read my second paragraph.

I’m not sure why you’re making stuff up.

Giving some additional info might help others understand. A lot have given you info that explains their position.

I felt the same, as well as enduring school bullying from pupils and teachers; now we are a home educating family. It works beautifully for us, the kids are thriving and have a vibrant social life. They have sat and passed (grades 7, 8, 9) GCSEs from age 12 onwards. Spreading out the stress of exams and exploring wonderful, immersive, engaging topics. Day trips and museums and NT days out, as well as ‘meet ups’ and 6 outside sports classes between them. We have had only positive experiences from HE. I I understand how you feel. Many teachers and others feel the same; many are joining the HE groups as they’ve quit to HE their own children. Yes, you do need income so that just be juggled.

Well, it is relevant to the thread because everyone's situation is different. I'm a lone parent who works full time and find the holidays nightmarish, however if I was a SAHP I would probably really enjoy the holidays. People might be able to relate more if they knew your situation. You don't have to tell us but it is relevant. You're awfully defensive. I don't know how you managed to read this post and assume the poster felt judged by you.

That's ok you don't need to relate. Plenty do even shock horror those who work!

I'm really going to look into this again as it would be my ideal.

And if you read my post I said I understand why some other parents don't feel this way. I understand the need for a break, I just don't need one and school isn't a "break" for me.