I think I am going mad, can't cope anymore

[rosyrabbit]

Is there many of you out there that feel like this?

I have been for a while now. I am usually very strong but I now feel that I am falling apart.

DD is 10months old and has always been hard work. I am now getting fed up of her being so demanding. I really need to get away from her more.

I also feel it is time to stop breastfeeding and do some type of sleep training. But I know it will stress me out more and I have not got the energy or patience at the mo.. I feel like a failure.

I have recently started having panic attacks and crying for no reason. It is making me feel weak and useless.

I have worked from a very young age and I am now starting to find it hard to be home alot with a clingy baby (even tho I love her so much).

DP knows how I feel and is trying to be supportive. He keeps saying I need time out for myself but he is always busy with work and is lazy tired when at home.

I really don't know how to get back on top of things. This feeling has been comming and going for awhile now. I really want to get over this and not let this crazy feeling take over my life..

I don't think she has a problem with her back, as she is ok in the pram when in a good mood.

I have been to an osteopath which was great, dp keeps telling me to book another session but I feel abit rubbish about using his money at the moment as I am not working and am finding it hard to adapt to not being so independant.

He is being really good at sharing the money but I am finding it hard to accept, I no that sounds silly..

I have got the yamo carrier which is great but when my back is bad it still makes it worse no matter how i carry dd...

I really feel i should have been more strict from when she was younger, so now i feel like a bad mum just for responing to her needs. As now she has got worse not better...

why strict rosy?

who is telling you to be strict?

not you, by the sounds of it. She is a baby, not a naughty child, responding to her needs is absolutely the right thing to do.

be easy on yourself!

des might have a point. her back (or anything really) could cause her constant discomfort, but when shes in a good mood/well rested and fed, she copes with it better... worth looking into. cranial osteopathy seems like it can do wonders for dc who are irritable for seemingly no reason.

my mum and sister think i have spoilt her, and i feel she is acting spoilt alot of the time...

they say i have been too soft... and it is my fault she is so needy!!

When i feel incontrol and not so drained I feel I have done the right thing with dd... But when she is such hard work i wonder if i have got it all wrong..

I don't agree with the old methods of making the baby cry themself to sleep etc, i feel that would be torcher for me and dd. But sometimes i wonder if that is the best way as othose babies are easier and less hard work.

Some nights dd does not go to bed untill 10 or 10.30...

I took her for cranial osteopathy when she was younger and had colic, it did work after 4 treatments but only for a short period of time, might give it another try...

rosy

you are the kind of mum you are. People will tell you all sorts of things but you have to be strong and follow your instinct.

babies go through all kinds of 'difficult' phases. I did like you and responded to my 'clingy' dd's needs, never did any kind of sleep training etc, slept in the same bed, bf till about 14 months. DD is sleeping soundly in her own bed now, having put herself to bed (she is 3) and is a happy, funny, affectionate child. She can still be 'needy' and 'clingy' but she is a child, not a machine!

enjoy your dd, love her - and yourself - the way you are.

your mum and sister sound really supportive. not.

keep listening to your own instincts and dont let others undermine you. remember that you can change things about a bit IF you want to too and that doesnt make anyone a winner or 'right'. so if you feel a time has come to be a bit, um, less accommodating of every whim for the sake of your own sanity, then feel free to do that in as small a dose as you want. if you dont feel thats whats needed, then next time they pipe up you can ask them if theyd really like to help, to take the baby for a few hours and let you get out/some sleep/whatever floats your boat.

I know you are both right, thank you for the support..

I'm sure I will feel better about it all tomorrow, its just when I get dwn i feel as tho everything i have done is wrong..

I just need to get out there and meet other mums and have fun I think instead of getting down about silly things..

yeah. simple stuff. baby steps. one outing/treat/day at a time.

I know it seems like quite a few people feel like this, I am just used to be so incontrol of my life then this qute little monster comes along and turns it upside down, but I don't know what I would do without her..

Thank you all so much, you have all been so kind, it is good to speak to people that have experienced this horrible feeling..

I think I should be off to bed now but will be back on to cht tomorrow... x x