Anxiety

[Littlesticklebrick]

Im a single mum 49 with a DS12. I divorced many years ago and steered away from any relationships until this last couple of years. I’ve been in one for about 4 months and he ended that 2 weeks ago. It was a real shock but he’d been away for 3 weeks and I think for him he’d lost connection.
Since then I’ve felt incredibly low. If I strip back the reason, I feel I probably have attachment issues and just can’t deal with it. I’m a very independent and strong person but this has floored me. I’m wondering if the relationship maybe hid longer stemmed issues.
For the last 6 months I’ve been on HRT as I’d already been to the doctors as I’d had low times. I’m not so sure it’s made a difference. Unlike me but I’ve since been back to the doctors and they’ve prescribed me Escitalopram (anti depressants) It’s a very low dose and he said I can decide if to use. I’m not sure what my question is but to begin with can these make you feel sick almost straight away? I took my first on Friday morning but the following morning I woke feeling sick. This could be the anxiety? It’s something I’ve never experienced so horribly.

I can say my anxiety rocketed through menopause having to go on a low dose of Sertraline and yep side effects hit me straight away - runny bum for me . That took a few days to sort its self out and now the only side effect I have is a dry mouth

When you start these type of meds they can cause the anxiety to worsen for a while , probably takes two weeks before things start to settle down and you may need to take them at a different time of day

@suki1964 thank you for your reply. So would you recommend I stick with it for a while? Thanks again.

@Littlesticklebrick most definitely

My anxiety got so bad I started avoiding leaving the house and thinking about driving made me feel physically sick - my life was becoming smaller and smaller slowly but surely. Im now back to my normal self - medicated but living a life again

I went on them not long before the lockdowns and project fear, I had to up them for a while during the first lockdown but as the fears lessoned I went back down. I came off them for a year, but the anxiety around driving crept back in and Im back on them

It’s normal to feel sick at first with new medication, and it often eases as your body adjusts — but do check in with your doctor if it continues. Alongside medical support, you might also find it useful to connect with a relationship support service that helps people work through attachment issues, loss, and resilience. Having a guided space to process emotions can make a real difference in feeling more grounded.

@openleaf123 Thank you, I’ve referred myself to a talking therapy. I’m awaiting to hear when it can start. Thank you for this.