does any1 else feel invisible sometimes??

[ChangingChances89]

prob just hormones or bein tired but i feel like i don’t exist unless the kids need something. like i’m just here to wipe noses n make toast n stop arguments. no one sees me unless i’m doing something for someone else

don’t get me wrong i love my kids more than anything but it’s like i disappeared somewhere along the way. like the old me’s gone. dunno who i even am anymore outside of being “mum”

summer holidays are hard cos it’s all on me every day. no break no space no quiet. dp hasn’t checked in since last week n the other dads don’t bother. just feels heavy lately. like i’m shouting into a void

any1 else ever feel like this?? like u still breathing but no one really sees u?? x

Absolutely feel the same. Do you have anyone that you can talk to? I seem to be the friend/person reaching out all of the time, I don't think I'd hear from anyone if I didn't.

Yes can relate to this 100%
It's a weird empty feeling
Sorry I don't have much advice but I do try to distract myself when I feel like this, even a walk around the block makes me feel more alive.

@ChangingChances89 Ask in general for extra support from the midwife (at the next appointment as you have 4 kids and 1 on the way - if you ask them about getting a family support worker from Early Help or Family Solutions (more generally) they'll be able to figure it out for you. Don't forget (write it down on your phone notes app and set an alarm during the appointment to go off. You can even just show the list of things to the midwife. Do it at the start of the appointment - so she can sort it all out). A support worker could be helpful so that you can make sure you are concentrating on your children and dealing with any issues. They can help with finding a new home and applications/forms to the council to move and also support for the cost if living and for DS3's likely autism. Please look into it, it's not a sign of being a bad parent. In fact it's a good thing to recognise how hard parenting is and ask for the support so you do the best for all your DC.

Please mention moods and issues to midwife - these often go up and down and it's better to bring it up, because long-term there lots of benefits. It would ensure that postpartum you can avoid or be aware of postpartum depression or anxiety occurring. I think you should also ask the GP and the midwife about getting on some medication like antidepressants or even just getting some therapy (DBT or CBT could be helpful so mention those to them), so you have an outlet for your stress.

Hope your doing well, also is anything else going on? Any other updates, you'll be find for results day as long as you get childcare for the other children and make sure you're with DS1 and talk to his teachers etc.