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I think I am having a nervous breakdown

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Wondering101 · 06/08/2025 14:31

I can hardly write how I feel but if I list what is going on maybe you will understand

violent ex husband had been persecuting me for 8 years. Using the children as a way to hurt me by attempting constantly to turn them against me. He has failed but it’s made the teens lose respect for me. My younger ones are still kind.

ex has started to be abusive the children shouting and swearing but they won’t stop seeing him and are often defensive of his. I spoke to a family lawyer and was told there was no way I would get full custody because the children would have to testify and they will refuse because they don’t want to stop seeing their dad.

oldest dd17 has started self harm after the last episode with him where he threatens suicide if she stops seeing him.

my mother is in the last stages of dementia
my father is elderly and has had a stroke

I am trying to do building works to make more room for the children but they keep hitting blocks and this is putting financial strain on me

i work full time

i I have a disabled child (diabetic type 1) and am the solely responsible for him as his dad does nothing to help and his bloods when with his dad are always bad. I have to wake in the night frequently to deal with his hypos.

i am hitting normal selfish lazy behaviour from my teens but it’s hitting harder because im just so exhausted. Frequently disrespected and told to F off if they don’t want to help with house work.

I left a cult so am very alone lost all the people that I had as friends for most of my life.

my dd had an accident that put us in hospital this week for two days. Luckily she is recovering but it was touch and go for a while.

my ds15 has just told me to F off after I requested he does the jobs that I have already paid him to do.

im broken, alone and have ran out of will. I’m also menopausal and I think my hrt is not working anymore

i am kind person I know and that often makes me feel valuable but I feel so broken and of very little value lately. I’ve taken some days off emergency leave to rest

OP posts:
Branleuse · 06/08/2025 14:48

Sending a big hug.

Do you work? How can you get a break somehow?
Can the older disrespectful teens go and stay with their dad if they think he's so bloody great? Might be the quickest way for them to see what he's like, plus if they are channeling his shitty energy now and bullying you, then you really need them away from you at the moment. You have to do what's right for you. You are just as important as them, and sometimes the more crap you take from them, the less and less they respect you.

You sound completely burnt out.
Strip it all back to the bare essentials.
Do your parents have care in place?

I think you should focus on yourself and the younger children. Take a few weeks and refuse to do anything for other people that they can do for themselves, or that they'd have to do if you weren't available.
Feeling like this is an emergency warning. Don't ignore it

GreenZebraStripes · 07/08/2025 23:02

I think you should also chat to your GP about the HRt

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