Ever since I had my baby, I’ve been feeling completely invisible to my in-laws. When I was pregnant, they were checking in on me constantly asking how I was feeling, if I needed anything, always making me feel cared for. But now that the baby is here, it’s like I no longer exist in their eyes. All the attention has shifted to the baby (and among themselves), and no one ever asks how I’m doing anymore not physically, mentally, or emotionally.
I understand that the baby is a huge focus, and I love how loved my child is. But I can’t help feeling so overlooked. It’s like my only value was in carrying the baby, and now that I’ve done that, I’ve just faded into the background.
What makes it even harder is that I don’t have much support from my own family, so I had really come to rely on my in-laws during my pregnancy. They made me feel like I was part of the family, and that meant so much to me. Now that sense of connection is just… gone. I feel lonely, and honestly, kind of hurt.
I’m doing my best to be strong for my baby, but I really wish someone would ask how I am doing. I wish I felt like someone cared about me too.
Has anyone else experienced something like this? How did you cope? I’m trying to keep perspective, but it’s been rough