Anxiety is so bad!!

[Luce2025]

A bit of a long one, just looking for some advice really. I feel like for years and years I've always had ups and downs bouts of depression/anxiety and so on. Recently it's been really bad, I feel like this is anxiety but I'm not sure.

I am a massive overthinker I always have been. Constantly worrying about something and then worrying about worrying!! I feel like I struggle to actually put myself first and I always worry about what others will think or what others people's opinions/feelings may be. This might not even be relevant to what I'm worrying about! It's really stupid and I will panic over little things.

Another example is I have friends but life gets busy and I feel because I have children I can't always be available. But even on my days off I struggle to actually muster the energy to socialise but then I get down that no one bothers with me and I spend a lot of time alone when my partner is in work and I'm off. I'm definitely partially to blame for this.

Another example is I was clearing the house out a while ago and I have loads of clothes to get rid of. I was stuck in a constant battle of binning them or giving them to the charity shop. But then I'll be thinking oh I can't just dump all my stuff at the charity shop like actually worrying about taking unwanted stuff to a charity shop. Pathetic I know. But then on the other hand I would feel guilty binning stuff that could go to others.

It's really getting me down because my mind is on constant overdrive. Is anybody else feeling like this?

Thank you in advance.

Not much advice. But I feel similar. Adult life has been ongoing depression and anxiety, to a greater or lesser extent and I want to feel better but I tried medication (it worked) and therapy and I should probably have more therapy but it’s so expensive. Feeling really low today so reminding myself it’s not just me, although not keen for anyone else to feel the same! Exercise helps me a lot so getting back to that!

I overthink too OP. What helps me are regular long walks, and immersing myself into a hobby or project so my thoughts are on that. Like really getting into it. I've got loads!

I can definitely relate to your friends thing. My friendships are essential but they all piss me off regularly because I get anxious / overthink. I'm hopeful it might get better, because why not? Things can change.

Magnesium and propanalol help too.

Have you tried medication ?

Thank you for replying! Yeah it's awful isn't it I've been to the GP in the past for PND and they offered me therapy but I always struggled to open up and be honest! Hope you feel better soon!

Yes walks definitely help me but it's actually talking myself up to go out for a walk that I'm useless at! I do try and keep my mind active but sometimes get overwhelmed! And yeah it's hard as I feel like unless I'm giving my constant attention to my friends they just forget I exist! Hope you feel better soon!

Hi, no I haven't tried medication currently!

I could have written this whole post, even down to the dilemma of knowing what is the “best” thing to do with clothes

It's so silly isn't it when you think about it! But I literally get into my own head about everything!

If it's affecting your daily life so much, you really should think about it. Propranolol is great if you suffer from racing heart, shakiness, sweats and there are loads of antidepressants out there. Good luck to you, I know how awful anxiety is.