Advice on helping someone or doesn’t think or see that they are in such a mess

[mumoftwoboys321]

Evening I’m just after some advice
currently in a messy situation with my ex he cheated I found out a month later his mental health went very bad he was very suicidal
thankfully he went to the doctors and they put him on medication this was back in April unfortunately the ones he is on haven’t helped him they’ve actually made him worse
I barely recognise him and the way he’s behaving but he can not see it he thinks he’s fine
we have two children together so for their sake all I want is for him to get better
hes currently living in his car even though he could stay with his mum (doesn’t want to) the children think he’s working away (still goes to work 5/6 days a week
is there anything to do for him to get through to him so he goes and gets the help he needs to be him again to be a good dad again
everything is like walking on eggshells if we say the wrong thing will it have a even more detrimental effect on him if you don’t say something will it play into making him think he’s right
just wondered if anybody had any suggestions having been through anything similar
thank you in advance if there is

You can't help someone who doesn't want to be helped. You are not his carer so, hard as it is, you need to restrict contact/conversation to things related to your children. Does his mum know the situation? Is she likely to be helpful?

It's difficult as he's your children's father. But as harsh as it sounds, his mental health is not your problem to solve. Only interact with him when it's practicalities to do with the children. Otherwise, don't engage

His mum knows not sure how much he tells her, I filled her in on what I do know, there is restrictions around the children while he’s in the place he’s in

Everything feels harsh but have had to accept that if he won’t get the correct help or listen to anyone there is very little I can do. Always thought that his love for the children would and should be enough to do all he can

I feel for you. But as you say I don't think there is anything you can do for him, nor should you be. You aren't his partner anymore and it's up to him to take responsibility for his situation

His mum needs to step in and get him a GP appointment. That's all you can do.