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To have a 3rd child or not?

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Amylouise212 · 29/06/2025 23:06

Me and my partner have been debating trying for a 3rd child for a while, I’ve always felt like I’d have one more, but he was unsure. He now feels ready, but I can’t help but now feel anxious about having a third.

I worry that having a third c section comes with high risk to myself and then the prospect of leaving behind two children. I worry that my two current children won’t accept a third (they have a very good bond). I worry about our house not being big enough and two of them having to share.

On the other hand, financially we are stable enough for a third, we adore our children and would love to have another one to add to the mix. I’ve always wanted a big family having been an only child.

anyone share anything if they’ve felt in the same boat at all?

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OneCosyCrow · 30/06/2025 04:50

I personally wouldn’t have a third. I don’t think it’s fair to make the kids share a room. Also the added cost of having another child soon creeps in which means less activities/treats/money for uni. I would rather my kids have a comfortable life now than settle for less in the future. Also you don’t know what will happen in the future, you or husband could lose their job or split up. Which is added pressure with more mouths to feed. The child may have health issues which you can never rule out for me so no I wouldn’t.

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