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On the verge of a breakdown TW abortion

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Blossoms21 · 21/06/2025 00:10

I've had a lot going on in my life in the past 3 years and honestly seems to be getting worse.

When ds was around 10 months we got told he had a hole in his heart, very traumatic time tbh I blamed myself for not knowing something was wrong with him. I later found out I was pregnant, I ended up having an abortion ad i felt my ds really needed me and his surgery could've been any day. I regret the abortion massively it's on my mind everyday. Ds had his op and is doing amazing.

My gran passed around a year later, I was do close to my gran and I miss her enormously.

My df fell and broke his hip, I've been running around after him for the past 6 months with very little help from my "d"b I'm honestly mentally and physically drained from going hospitals, care homes to finding my dad somewhere suitable to stay and helping with shopping's etc

A few weeks ago my dm found out she has cancer.

I feel like everything is falling apart around me as i try to work, be a mum to two boys, help dm and df but there's just not enough of me to go round and I'm sinking.

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goldfishbowl2025 · 21/06/2025 00:12

Which means you need to stop. Because you are one person. Who else can help ?

TheSlantedOwl · 21/06/2025 00:12

Hugs. It sounds all too much. Is there anything you can do to find a little bit of rest and calm?

Blossoms21 · 21/06/2025 00:20

Honestly no one else can really help. Dh does what he can but he doesn't know I'm breaking

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Blossoms21 · 21/06/2025 00:21

Tbh he's not exactly making life easy right now either

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Realisation14 · 21/06/2025 08:37

Can your df afford to pay for help? So maybe a cleaner once a week or someone to do the shopping for him to take some of the load off you? Can you go to GP and ask for a sick note for stress citing all the above reasons? You need a break. All the parenting duties will still be there of course but if you can at least drop some of the load for a while it might give you a chance to focus some of the time on you.

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