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Having flashbacks to driving mistakes

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DandyTaupeHiker · 10/06/2025 11:22

I have posted on here a few times about my driving journey and my mental health and anxiety around driving.

I'm a new driver not even a year with my license but have really bad anxiety. A few months after I passed my test I drove home from a location I didn't know very well as my partner had a drink and he usually would do the long journey driving.

The drive went well until one point where I was driving down a road in a quiet part of the town we were in. There was a car in front of me and a cyclist in front of them. The car in front of me overtook the cyclist at a strange part of the road where it bend just a tad so it wasnt completely clear to see if cars were coming except through the gaps in trees where I could see there wasnt any cars oncoming. I stupidly followed them and overtook the cyclist giving them loads of room. There were no other cars oncoming thankfully but it was extremely stupid of me to do that just because the car in front did.

I still have flashbacks of it because I know it could of been really bad if a car was coming towards us.

I have never done it since as I know it was an idiotic move.

How do I get past thinking about it time and time again?

Thanks

OP posts:
Eyesopenwideawake · 10/06/2025 13:04

I could see there wasnt any cars oncoming

How was that extremely stupid? Why do you think you are giving so much headspace to a simple manoeuvre that probably took about 30 seconds and so little to the rest of the long journey which you did perfectly?

DandyTaupeHiker · 10/06/2025 13:33

@Eyesopenwideawake I think because it was only through small gaps in the trees I wasn't fully sure if cars were coming or if it was 100% safe that's why I'm a bit annoyed that I just didn't wait until I had a clear view

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Lavendersong · 10/06/2025 14:36

That was a perfectly normal move given the situation and nothing happened.

I have no idea why you would keep going over this non event but I suppose ask AI or see a counsellor

Dbank · 10/06/2025 14:45

When you start driving, you start learning, your experience is just part of that process.

I know I have learnt from several close calls, that have made me a better driver.
(admittedly some slightly haunt me 30 years later..., passing a Fiat 500 sideways on my motorbike as I was going way too fast, but managed not to crash)

Please don't worry about second longer, just take it on board as part of the learning process.

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