Feeling overwhelmed by house move on top of chronic illness & depression

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I have posted here before about my struggles with both my mental and physical health. The background is that both DH and I are in our 70s/60s and struggle a lot. We are in the process of moving house, which we should have done ten years ago. I have had to do most of the work because he isn’t at all computer literate. So, I am exhausted both physically and mentally. Because of my health issues I spend most of the day in bed using my iPad for organising and entertainment. DS1, who has ASD, is an adult and lives with us and helps out a lot.

We have reached the stage where there are only a few weeks until moving day and there have been a lot of deliveries of new furniture & equipement for our new home. I just feel completely overwhelmed by fear. If I could quietly die in my sleep, then that would be a blessing.

I won’t do anything drastic, as I love my sons and DH, but I long for peace.

Sorry to hear this. Have you discussed this with your husband and son? Is your husband helping sufficiently with the practical side of things? Eg packing or sorting the furniture deliveries? Can you afford to employ a moving company who will do the packing for you too? And even maybe the unpacking?

Moving house is overwhelming for anyone isn’t it. And isn’t it considered one of the most stressful events a person can go through? So it’s no wonder you feel like this.

When a person feels like this they are supposed to look after themselves. Can you do this? Also, do you think by just focussing on one or two of the jobs you have to do to get ready for moving per day, you will be able to more realistically break down and progress through the jobs without feeling such overwhelm? Or delegate some of them (specific rooms for example) to your DH and son?

I have depression and anxiety so I understand. I am currently on antidepressants. Have you considered this or are you already on them?

Take care and hope someone else comes on soon with maybe some better advice. But definitely make sure you get the input you need from your son, husband and see if any friends can help out even if in a small way. I’m sure they’d rather you ask than see you struggle

Thank you @Uncertain111 for your kind reply. Sadly, DH is very disabled and I am worried about his mental state. He is having serious memory lapses now.

Yes, I am on a high dose of antidepressants and they usually help a lot. We are getting a full packing service and buying in as much help as we can.

I am just going through a bad patch, I think.