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Anybody furious about there childhood TRIGGER SA

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SunComeBack · 24/05/2025 22:13

I’ve thinking about this a lot recently, I’ve posted about this before but a few years ago the police contacted me about the rape I reported as a teenager, nearly 30 years ago.
They wanted to reopen my case, a trial happened and I was the main witness, it was horrendous.
I had such an abusive childhood, neglect, SA, emotional abuse, lived in a shithole world surrounded by people that hated me. My dad started of good but left and barely glanced back.. leaving me in a terrible world.
I believe my childhood made me a vulnerable teenager and it’s why I then ended up raped and left for dead, it’s also that lack of love that meant the police could dismiss when I reported at the time.
I know I finally got some justice with the case being reopened and I try and tell myself I got a lot more justice than most rape victims get but god I’m angry.
I thankfully have a nice life now, with a loving husband and kids but the smallest things are dragging me back.
I was just on social media and saw a Kylie Minouge dance clip, I loved her as a kid… And then it starts, I can see myself at 8 years old trying to learn the location and I just feel so upset and angry for the little girl that I was.
I feel like the court case has opened up the floodgates of my past and I can’t look at a photo or listen to a song without wanting to hit someone or cry. I’m so tired of it, does it ever end or will this affect me forever.

OP posts:
MiloMinderbinder925 · 25/05/2025 02:21

💗I'm sorry you're going through this. It's very lonely and isolating as most people don't understand.

You have every right to be angry at everyone who let you down. You might find The Survivor's Trust helpful, they have a good helpline and can help you find specialised counselling.

NAPAC is for anyone who suffered childhood abuse. They also have a good helpline.

It sounds like you might benefit from inner child work. You can buy books about it on Amazon.

Journalling, meditation, making art, being in the countryside and boxercise to release some anger might be helpful.

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