I’ve recently read the following….
A longstanding hypothesis is that grandiose fantasising – defined as engaging in fantasies of success, power, brilliance, or beauty – is a common and critical form of intrapersonal self-regulation among people with pathological narcissism.
I’ve always had fantasies that I consider harmless, flights of fancy - I’m a successful actor, a medal winning athlete, a judo black belt, dating a rock star, a high ranking military officer with medals for bravery.
I’m happy with my life, I’ll never set the world on fire but I’ve got a fantastic son, decent partner, great friends, house, job, enough spare cash for holidays and treats. I’m thought of as a good, kind and funny person and I’m grateful for what I have.
I see the fantasies as filling a gap between being a Ms Average and setting the world on fire. I don’t crave greatness or recognition in real life but if I’m complimented or praised then I enjoy that feeling.
Do those fantasies make me a narcissist?