Unable to get out of bed

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I seem to have been hit with a depression slump of some sort. It’s a lovely sunny day outside here but all day from 7 am until 4.20 pm, I’ve stayed in bed, just staring at the crack between the blind and the sill. I’ve tried contacting my friends via text but no replies. I’m just thinking about the past, about my family, about mistakes I made and make. I feel horribly alone. There’s no money to spare so I can’t go and get a coffee or something. I tried eating something and just felt sick. I feel as if loneliness is my lot in life and will never be resolved.

Next time you need to pee, brush your teeth while you're in there. If you can't face food make yourself a nice cup of tea. Try and raise that blind a little bit to let some of the sun into the room. Have you got a TV in there? Put on a comedy film or family friendly film.

I have moments like this. I just don't seem to get motivated but then my alarm goes and I know I have to move . But given the choice I would hide away.
One thing that helps me and doesn't need anyone else.
Is getting up and going for a walk with my headphones on. Good music or a podcast.
Don't need money just a bottle water .
I always feel better after and a bit more productive the rest of the day.

OP, I have suffered from depression, and the doctor told me to go for a walk every day. You will have to force yourself, but it really does help, especially on a lovely day. I do know the “voices in your head” berating you for last mistakes - we’ve all made them, and none of us can change the past. Try listening to the radio/audiobook/podcast, or doing a puzzle - just something to get between you and your thoughts, You’re not alone - you have friends you can contact - they may just have been busy. It’s Saturday today: you might have better luck as it’s a weekend. So get up, have a shower, and go out for half an hour. Make a cup of tea, and try a biscuit or a yoghurt or a piece of fruit if you can’t face “food” - remember your body is an engine and it can’t run on empty. Not eating will only make you feel worse. Good luck!

Sorry to hear you’re suffering OP. A little tip is to not wait for motivation to come. Try to act regardless because motivation is unlikely to come when you feel in a slump. Acknowledge that you don’t feel motivated but do it (eg the ideas given above) anyway.

Can you just walk out the door and walk. I spend first 20 mins sad or angry, Next 20 mins a few brighter thoughts appear. By the time an hour is up I’m in a goodish mood, endorphins kick in.

Sorry you are in such a dark place OP. My therapist would say to be kind to yourself and give yourself permission to have a lazy day if you are really struggling. Try to do one small thing every day and one large thing once a week.
I do find that if I force myself to get up and get outside then it does eventually lift my mood, even though it can take an hour sometimes.
Spending time with animals and nature really does help but don’t beat yourself up if you can’t achieve as much as you think
you should. Give yourself credit for anything you can do when you are feeling low.
Good luck xx

I have bipolar and have felt similar to how you describe on occasion. I always feel better for a walk. I’ve recently joined a CrossFit type gym and if I go to an early class, I find the rest of the day much more enjoyable. It’s social and hard interaction all in one.

Sometimes if I haven’t managed to get out of bed, I do just take the decision to right off the day and start again the next day.

OP - tiny steps, this case literally.
You have done brilliantly reaching out to friends.

I can sometimes get into a very negative frame and end up not doing anything
It Is so easy to discount the positive such as your texts,

First just decide you will get out of bed. That is all, nothing else. If you manage it and get back into bed that is success. If you manage that and brushing your teeth amazing.
Depending on how well you feel first step and complete success may be get out of bed or on a better day could be have a shower and dress to go out.
If I do this sometimes it gets me out and about, but even if I get out of bed and back in success. You can set another tiny goal as you go along.

Sending healing to you and to me and l feel the same way somewhat this morning. Rise and do something small if you can. Me too. I am going to do some stretching exercises. 🌻 You are a brave and good person.

I’m so lucky to have found this village. Lots of these suggestions are appreciated and relatively easy to implement. I did get out of bed, have a shower and assemble crackers and cheese. Went back to bed, but feel lifted. Thank you all very much. ♥️

How are you feeling today OP?

Hi OP - I hope today feels a little brighter and lighter for you. If you can pop your head outside the door or a window today, try lifting your face to the sky, feel the sun on your face for a minute and breath in deeply. It’s hard to lift out of this kind of fog I know. One day at a time x

Also just saying hello.

I was lucky enough to have a great therapist and we worked out a ‘trauma toolkit’ which I keep
for these really low moments when feel
absolutely frozen. It’s simple - a few TV shows with gentle humour I have seen before - Dinnerladies, The Royle Family and Car Share never fail.
A few books where I feel like the characters could be friends - The Thursday Murder Club series is so lovely to read, and I wish Joyce was my best mate. Anything by Jilly Cooper which involves Rupert Campbell Black.
A playlist of songs meaningful in my life without the melancholy - and if I can get up and move - all
the better.
A notebook and pen to write about a great person in my life - past or present - and why I love them. Also add in a fantastic memory and why I still cherish it.
I am having a good day today and rattle off that list but on a bad day I don’t want to look at it. But I do I have it all written down and honestly it has helped me so, so much.

Can you watch something funny on the telly? Please see your GP.
I hope you feel better soon. I am going through something and feel much the same, with food and the thought of it making me gag.
I’ve got out of bed though and am sitting in the garden: daylight and fresh air.