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Do I need to just get a grip?

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Florabella · 07/05/2025 08:44

I really feel I am struggling a bit at the moment, but feel a bit guilty posting here, as it’s nothing as serious as most people on this board are going though.

i struggle to get up and start my day, and the highlight at the moment is just going back to bed at night. I struggle to motivate myself for work (self employed and work from home). My energy levels are zero and I cry most days. I just feel empty and exhausted. I comfort eat which doesn’t help my energy levels and I can’t stop for more than a few days.

i am a single parent to three teenagers. One doing a levels and one with undiagnosed adhd who needs more support. I run two businesses. One, which is half my income I run with my ex. He can sell it at any time and there is nothing I can do about that. He often mentions doing that in the next year or two and when he does I cannot pay my mortgage. I have no energy for a plan b and I feel as though I have an axe hanging over me all the time waiting to fall.

my ex is also being difficult on maintenance, he pays me 55% on gov min, but if I push any harder I know he will sell the business. I feel sick and exhausted arguing with him every month about sending maintenance which he changes on a monthly basis

i think it is my circumstances damaging my mental health rather than being internal if you know what i mean, but I am trapped in my circumstances. I feel no joy in anything in life and I feel guilty for my children that I am not setting them a good enough example. I help them with study, but I just want to be in bed by 8! (I manage to stay up until 9 and then hide in my bed)

sorry, that was long. I just need to write it down

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Eyesopenwideawake · 07/05/2025 08:52

First off, have you had a medical check up recently? There are several physical issues that can make you feel like shit - thyroid, vitamin deficiency, peri, etc so do have a check up when you can.

Can you set up a separate business, doing the same thing or similar, so that you are not at the mercy of your ex? Or do something completely different. You need to break free from his control and this MUST be a priority. While he's pulling the strings you will always have (at the very least) a low level of anxiety simply because you are being controlled.

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