If you have/had anxious attachment style how do you cope with the negatives of it or how did you manage to alter it?

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As per title! I have quite and anxious attachment style and just wondered how to cope with it? Not in a jealous fly off the handle desperation way, more so in the subtle not alot of self compassion, panic if someone's not there to support emotionally way.

Has anything helped? (Currently in therapy)

I think it was doing therapy and identifying the negative voice and figuring out how it came about (anxious personality plus a critical and controlling mother). I could make that voice a lot more clownish and take it a lot less seriously.

The other thing was leaning into how my brain wants to work - sounds a bit vague but keeping in motion, seeking novelty, having challenges, it feeds me and shrinks rumination for me down a lot.

Finally - just being old and giving fewer shits. Is it really a big deal? Good luck 💐

It's not an inescapable diagnosis, or a statement of fact, just a lense through which to look at your life and reflect.

Thanks both, the more I read into it the more how I think makes sense and also identify where it stems from. Obviously this is the first step, but it makes sense of so much. I'd like to work towards stepping away from this style as it really is quite emotionally destructive for me, very negative thinking patterns etc.

@UncertainPerson I'm coming to the don't give as much of a shit phase I think!! But also doing more work on myself so realising I'm not weird or anything in how I am or think but realising I need to equip myself better to deal with how my brain works