How to help myself when caring for a parent

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I struggle with my MH (on meds and also meditate / exercise and sleep well ( The combination keep it at bay just )
The week coming I am giving my mum some respite as dad has dementia .
I am concerned how I will manage - he can be left for up to one hour on his own safely .
It’s the repetition , following me about that I’m particularly concerned about ! I know it isn’t his fault !
Im also worried that he will be worse without her there (anxious etc ) and his , (and my )sleep will be affected !
Any tips etc ?
Mum needs the rest (myself and siblings live hours away so she rarely gets a break )

Can you not get your parents in touch with local authority senior services who would provide respite?

Mum refuses (ppide ) to use outside help . She would rather struggle on . She ended up in hospital last time as so worn out

Bless your Mum, i understand where she’s coming from.
My fil has dementia, so i know the toll it takes on their spouse.

I can’t offer any advice, i’m afraid, cos i know how stubborn (as a mule) my mil can be about the same things.
She’s very fond of saying (to every offer of professional involvement): my daughter will do that.
Without actually asking my sil!

So, my lovely sil is also hanging by a thread.

Then, with respect, this is your mother’s choice.

She’s not just ‘struggling on’ alone, is she? She’s also putting the burden on you and your siblings. Fair enough if you are all up for being stand in carers, but if you aren’t, on a a there are alternatives.