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We're really struggling

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Namechange98457 · 01/05/2025 16:46

Hi all,

I'll try and be brief, but basically my partner and I are really struggling for various reasons and things that have happened in our relationship. Trying to hold it together, and we love each other but it just feels so hard atm.

We've been together around 5 years and in that time we have had a DD who is 2. The birth was extremely traumatic, and I had severe PTSD (had treatment), then my partners step-dad passed away which impacted him heavily. His anxiety became very severe and he was obsessing about health issues and was I would say depressed a lot of the time. He wasn't really interested in doing much as a family and would say that he felt too tired a lot of the time.

Most recently he has had a health scare which has really escalated the obsessing and anxiety. I am trying so hard to be supportive, but because of this I am taking on a huge portion of the childcare and trying to keep things going for our DD and I am burnout. I'm also really worried that he is escalating and I'm just really unsure how to help or what to do.

He is having his first therapy session tomorrow which I am really hoping will help.

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Eyesopenwideawake · 01/05/2025 17:58

Is it feasible for him (or you) to move out until he's more stable? It's not fair on you to have to care for your child and him - it's fine to be supportive but you don't have the tools or the bandwidth to take on responsibility for his mental health.

Pineappledancer · 03/05/2025 11:27

Sounds like you are in a very difficult situation. How did the therapy session go?

Namechange98457 · 06/05/2025 09:04

It was just a first session so hasn't really started yet, but he's going back on Friday. He's also admitted that he has depression and anxiety and has a docs appointment today to talk about support and potentially medication. I'm really hoping all of this helps as I feel like I've lost my partner to it all.

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