A book which others may find useful to read…

stillawip · 2025-04-29T16:39:26+00:00

I am currently reading a book called “Your Worry Makes Sense” by a wonderfully kind GP called Martin Brunet. I have suffered from anxiety for decades, and this book has really explained some things to me like never before, & has definitely helped me feel better. No affiliation at all to the author, but just thought I’d mention it, in case it helps anyone else.

Imgoingtobefree · 29/04/2025 18:09

Thankyou, I’ll have a look at it.

Are there any examples you can quote that really meant something to you?

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stillawip · 29/04/2025 18:16

I’ve bookmarked quite a few but I do like this one “The key thing about camels and straws is that camels can carry very heavy loads; they are not weak – they are strong!”

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stillawip · 29/04/2025 20:14

Haha sorry, just seen that I didn’t copy the whole quote!
“The key thing about camels and straws is that camels can carry very heavy loads; they are not weak – they are strong! The classic person who gets burnout is a strong person; they work hard, set high standards and solve other people’s problems. Often, they are the hub of the family, the reliable person to whom everyone turns; when things get hard, they don’t stop – they just pedal harder. They care about what they do and are not good at delegating, either because they think the only way to do it properly is to do it yourself, or out of a sense of duty and not wanting to put upon someone else. Frequently, they work in the caring professions or in a highly responsible, high-pressure job, or they may not be in paid work but have high levels of caring responsibilities within the family. They might have elderly parents who need increasing levels of help, or a child with complex needs, or often both. Crucially, people who burn out are not armour-coated; they care what people think about them, they want to do a good job and like to be liked, and so they are vulnerable to criticism, with self-criticism often being the hardest of all to manage.

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Jenkibuble · 30/04/2025 13:44

stillawip · 29/04/2025 20:14

Haha sorry, just seen that I didn’t copy the whole quote!
“The key thing about camels and straws is that camels can carry very heavy loads; they are not weak – they are strong! The classic person who gets burnout is a strong person; they work hard, set high standards and solve other people’s problems. Often, they are the hub of the family, the reliable person to whom everyone turns; when things get hard, they don’t stop – they just pedal harder. They care about what they do and are not good at delegating, either because they think the only way to do it properly is to do it yourself, or out of a sense of duty and not wanting to put upon someone else. Frequently, they work in the caring professions or in a highly responsible, high-pressure job, or they may not be in paid work but have high levels of caring responsibilities within the family. They might have elderly parents who need increasing levels of help, or a child with complex needs, or often both. Crucially, people who burn out are not armour-coated; they care what people think about them, they want to do a good job and like to be liked, and so they are vulnerable to criticism, with self-criticism often being the hardest of all to manage.

WOW
This is so accurate - describes me to a T :(

I shall take a look at the book

Thanks

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stillawip · 30/04/2025 13:57

Me too! 💕

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quirkychick · 30/04/2025 14:26

Thank you, it describes me too. I will have a look at the book as well.