Email/feedback to therapist

[ByZippyDog]

I've been seeing my counsellor for a few months and, without giving too much away of the type of therapy, she has been introducing some new techniques during the last few sessions which aim to more bring body awareness. At the start of today's session, she asked if I felt I was becoming more resilient and if anything had shifted since the last session. I responded by saying that nothing had come up which had really tested my resilience but what I wanted to say was that I feel I am more resilient or at least able to cope better. I guess something is shifting and I am starting to be kinder to myself but I am wary that if something comes up then I am not sure if I will cope better if it is really challenging (I was SH up to a few weeks ago).

It is now on my mind that I feel I should drop her an email with feedback to say that I have been using her techniques and that I am more resilient (or at least more able to respond rather than react) however I am only supposed to contact her about cancelling/changing appointments, and there is this part of me that suspects I want to email her from a selfish/people pleasing perspective as I didn't say it during the session, and I am crossing boundaries even it is just phrased as a 'feedback' email.

For context, the rest of the session I spoke about (or around) a topic that I have been unable to discuss until now, so it is was a quite difficult session in a way although it is not hitting me yet. I made her aware at the end of the session that I haven't SH for a few weeks so I guess that was feedback in a way.

Given that you're 'filing in the gaps' of what you wanted to say and assuming you're not looking for a reply, I don't see it being a problem.

You could frame it just as you have in your post "...what I wanted to say was that I feel I am more resilient or at least able to cope better..."

If she hasnt asked for it
Don’t drop her a line fgs she’s explicitly told you what she expects in terms of email communication

I have a feeling you have posted about your therapist and your relationship with her before

Thank you for your response, I appreciate it. I wouldn't expect a reply from her but I think she would acknowledge my email, and therefore I think I am crossing boundaries by emailing her and not waiting until next session. Thinking back to today's session, she pointed out that my not SH recently is progress (or similar words to that effect) even I can't see it.

The therapist has explicitly told OP not to contact her in this way.

I don't think you should be using Mumsnet to help you with this decision. You have been given the boundaries for therapy. A part of resilience building is learning to cope with not being certain that the decisions you are making at any moment in time are the right ones and not getting anxious or fixated on it. You have already answered your question in your post. You can do this.

Op

do not infringe the email rules she has explicitly asked you to respect

not only disrespectful
it completely undermines you saying that her therapy is helping you, as you’re continuing this kind of behaviour

Follow the rules. They are there for a reason. Even if you don’t know what it is. Or think it’s unusual.

Tell her at your next session. It makes no odds to her. She is a professional. Open with it.

There is no need to tell her because she wouldn’t discuss it with you over email. You are unlikely to get a reply as she has told you email is not for that.

i hear that you say it’s a people pleasing part making you want to email - however she hasn’t asked you to email her so rest easy

it can wait., far better to go and talk about wanting to email her in the room