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alexis97 · 13/04/2025 20:49

Hi everyone,

So a bit of context.. me and DH have been together since 2020 married since 2021. We were best friends, soulmates. Everything was perfect. He was in the army and we honestly never argued. Flash forward to 2023, he left the army, we ended up in debt and we had another child. A lot of stressful scenarios. He then went into a job where we have had a lot of arguments about due to him being overly flirty with coworkers and the job being notorious for affairs. Our relationship has been very rocky and we split 2 and a half weeks back due to him being unhappy with life, everything, his relationship so I told him there and then to leave. He was begging to come back on the Sunday so decided to try one more time because he really is the love of my life.

He has started sertraline and my god it has been hard, he has become so withdrawn and distant, this is week number 2 and from tomorrow he has to increase to 100mg. When I asked him tonight if we’re okay he said we’re fine and he is still happy and still loves me, that he will tell me if somethings wrong but he said he just feels distant and withdrawn and he knows it’s the tablets because it’s the only thing that’s changed. All he’s wanted to do is lay about, not do anything, early nights, has not much interest in eating. Can sertraline do this to someone?

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JoyousEagle · 14/04/2025 01:16

Sertraline can certainly cause a worsening of symptoms like anxiety and depression (and even suicidal thoughts) at the start. If he has become withdrawn and distant only since starting the tablets, then I would give it a couple more weeks and see what happens. The dr would probably say to give it 6 weeks before considering changing to a different tablet if this one is causing issues.

Flewtothemoon · 14/04/2025 12:52

It might be worth looking up emotional blunting to see whether it resonates with your husband’s current situation. It can be a side effect of SSRIs.

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