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Much needed break

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YOUSEECOLOURS · 11/04/2025 23:26

I feel awful even asking but does anyone just need a break from their children and life. I love them very much but I'm exhausted. My husband goes for golf weekends/work nights away/cousin getaways..... I get nothing. I have no friends to go away with and my family don't do that kind of stuff. I wake up most nights with my 4 year old and I'm constantly the first person she calls for rather than her dad. My eldest doesn't get much control from his dad and so I have to be the 'tough parent'. I work condensed hours so a full time contract over 4 days, my day off is housework and with my youngest.

I just want a break. I want a full night's sleep. A day of not being constantly pulled side to side by everyone. Not have to worry about the house. Not have to work.

Husband is away with cousins this weekend, haven't heard from him all day which I accept but not even a 'how we're the kids today'.... I want to be able to switch off like that.

Had a bit of breakdown before writing this so I apologise... Just felt better writing it Down...

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YOUSEECOLOURS · 11/04/2025 23:27

I should say that my husband encourages me to do things but I have no one to do it with.

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Numberedout · 12/04/2025 00:53

Everyone deserves a break, regardless of their circumstances. What you need is time to recharge your batteries. You don't need anyone to do this with. Book a few days in a hotel or air BnB in a scenic place and do all the things that bring you joy.

Everyone benefits from you being rested.

There are many mums who do this regularly. It's not a luxury, it's a necessity in my opinion.

LeonardCohensFamousBlueRaincoat · 12/04/2025 12:46

I agree with @Numberedout just book yourself a break somewhere that you would enjoy whether that's the seaside, sightseeing or a bit of a luxury hotel. You can still enjoy it on your own and you definitely deserve the break especially as your DH has breaks and is encouraging you to as well x

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