When you feel youve lost your sparkle..

[worldwidetravel2017]

What do you do to find it again ?

Just curious / everyones different

I’m still trying to figure this out but things I’ve found that work for me- when the sun is out sit outside in it. Do some exercise even if it’s really really hard to dig deep and get off my bum. Also spending time snuggling under a soft blanket and stroking my cat

Any sort of self care really. Work out what's missing and fix it. If I feel like a look a bit rubbish and haven't been looking after myself I take steps to improve my sleep routine, drink more water, remember to take a vitamin, eat better food, get more exercise. Or, get a hair cut, have a blitz of my wardrobe, get rid of things which don't fit, invest in some new bits. If I'm exhausted and overwhelmed by work I carve out time to just sit and do nothing, binge watch junk tele or go for long walks in nature till I feel better. If I feel like dh and I are disconnected I make an effort to reconnect, suggest a date, take time to listen. If I feel dissatisfied and bored I make plans to visit places, catch up with family and friends. Or read a book do a hobby, get some culture. When I hated my job I pushed myself to find new one, it took a few years. Have felt fed up with elements of our house and (fingers crossed) now finally moving to one which should work out better and improve quality of life.

I don't seem to be able to sustain all these things all the time so I just respond to what I need.

Why are you feeling you've lost your sparkle?

Blood test to make sure it isn’t physical (treating my low was a game changer for my energy levels). Do something you enjoy rather than something you ‘should’ do at least a few times a week.

Thanks. We are currently going through ivf
( and have miscarriage history)

Im guna go walking in the sun at 430pm && buy some strawberries :)

@worldwidetravel2017 I'm sorry to hear that, be kind to yourself. That's a tough journey and you won't always be on top of your game or feel like your usual self. You don't have to be a hero or cope all the time either. Strawberries and sunshine sound like an excellent plan. Try and take each day as it comes. Wishing you lots of luck with the ivf.

IVF is tough emotionally and miscarriages can be gruelling as well, along with the absolutely huge thing hanging over you of whether or not it will end in a baby and what that big life change would mean, or what life will look like if it doesn't work. What about therapy to help you process that?

It's not something I've been through myself but I've seen from friends who have, it takes a lot out of you and so it's not quite the same as a typical sort of "lost my spark" - it's an enormous and very tangled thing to process. A good therapist (take your time to find one you find helpful) seems to help with sorting through all of that.

Thank you very much

Thank you
I have 2 lots of counselling

One privately
Who i have a session with on Monday

And one with the clinic.

Each frozen transfer we do - we are guna have 50 60 %% chance

Currently we hope to do up to 3 transfers

Egg collection should be this month - one step at a time