Feeling desperate as a Mum

[Tiredallthetime7]

I really hope someone understands this because I feel like I'm going to have a mental breakdown.

I absolutely love my child and my family so so much but I'm getting so burnt out I feel like I just can't do it anymore, I feel like running away. Constant teething, sleep regression, illness, having to take time off work, not able to look after myself in a very basic way because everyone else's needs come before mine. I feel really depressed, I can't give 100% to anything. I'm always playing catch up with work (I returned part time and it feels like I'm trying to do full time over the days I do work, even more if I've had to take time off for poorly child or partner)

I look exhausted and like I don't bother anymore, I'm too busy to eat, I'm snappy with everyone and resentful for not having a lot of help. I honestly feel like I just can't do it anymore and I feel like my family is better off without me because I'm just being a rubbish mum anyway.

I didn't think it would be this hard and I'm absolutely astonished at how difficult being a mum is. Not sure what I'm looking for here, I feel like I can't talk to anyone about my feelings but I am really desperate.

Ask for help - that's the only way you'll get it. No one can read your mind.

everyone else's needs come before mine No, they don't. Your child's needs come first but you are second on that list. Why? Because you need to function to care for your child.

What's the situation with the child's father? Is there family who can step in?

Don't forget that the Samaritans are always there for you - 116 123. Call them anytime.

Firstly, I'm really sorry you're feeling like this. It can be so hard when DC are going through all these different stages. How old is your LO? I think a lot of mums have felt how you're feeling so you're not alone. It does get better as they older! Is there any way you can have a few days break? Does your partner help?
Secondly I would visit your GP and tell them everything you've said here and ask for help. Also ask any family for help too. You don't have to do everything on your own and you need a bit of time for yourself, once a week or whenever you can get it.

How are you doing? I was in this place for a very long time. It’s hard. I have no useful comments just sympathy. it got (will get) easier - although I appreciate that doesn’t help you now. Parenting is hard and you’re coping (altho it doesn’t feel like it now).
When nursery illnesses calmed down I could finally have a day off, without toddler, and rest. If you can manage these every so often it can help.

Thank you so much for replying! I am looking at the comments now and feel awful that I didn't reply. However, thank you so much for asking and for anyone who comes across this post, I did the following:

• Spoke to a female GP who is also a mother and was very helpful, I was prescribed Fluoxetine that I've just recently come off and attended therapy which I have now completed and learnt my feelings came from desperately trying to achieve perfection and then reacting / feeling awful when I didn't achieve that

• Much to the Mum Guilt theme (will it ever go away!) put my child into childcare on the occasional week day that I have off so I can have the time to myself!

• Work is still a challenge at times but I've been honest with my manager who has been great, it's still a juggling act but I am managing it easier now I'm back into the swing of things

I really appreciate your comment and thank you for checking back in, it is really hard and I feel like we're too hard on ourselves as Mum's. My therapist said strive to be "just enough" and you're doing fine!

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