Can anyone talk me through how to get over having negative associations with a place and being afraid to go there?

[StartingAgainFGS]

Afraid is perhaps not the right word. And I don't know if this should really be in the divorce section!
Basically my husband cheated on me then left. After the fact, I came across messages between him and OW which I wish I'd never seen.
Some of them referred to where they'd meet up...a very local sort of beauty spot. It's a place I spent lots of time as a child , and then again when my own children were young. Ideally would still go there a few times a month. Lots of connections to my parents.
However since finding out they met there (she called it "our place") i can't bring myself to go back. I'm obviously in bits about the whole situation and what he's taken from me, but I'm also furious that he's spoiled this place for me. I want to sort of mentally reclaim it; it's always been a sort of peaceful sanctuary
Any time I've tried to go, I feel tearful upset and angry.
I feel like there must be a technique or something I can use to help?
Thank you if you've made it this far

All I can think of is to look up a cleansing or banishing spell in the internet (a quick search seems to bring up things with sprinkling salt and water!) and then go there and do that.

It's too soon. It will improve but for now find somewhere else. One day you simply won't hurt anymore and won't even care about him.

Sorry I can't help except to say I feel for you. I'm experiencing this with the family home, now my home, post separation as the OW lives doors away. I'm trying the flooding approach, spending loads of time at home and noting that nothing bad actually happens to justify the anxious and upset feeling.

@Leafytrees sorry you're going through this. That sounds even worse when it's your own home. I am still in the family home too, but it feels like a safe space despite the history.
@AmusedGoose you're probably right. I'm just so annoyed!!
@Hazel665 that's not so much my style...I might feel satisfied by burning something of his/hers but I might get arrested 😂

Just pondering,I think @AmusedGoose is right re time...but can I speed that process up?!

I echo what @Hazel665 said. You could maybe do a cord cutting exercise there as well to reclaim the land as yours. There's lots of energy spells and protection techniques you can do to help clear the place of any energy to do with 'them'.

So i am the least woo person ever, but I had a wee Google around cord cutting @chainsinnalice and altho I can't get on board with the ritual type of stuff, I did come across some guided meditations...I might try walking there and listening? Thank you!