Currently on mat leave with number 2 but due back to work soon.
Met a great group of mums on mat leave from child number 1 and we keep in touch daily on a WhatsApp group and try to regularly meet up. One of these mums has always had the same day off work as me, but a couple of years ago I noticed she would not respond if I asked if anyone was free on my day off, or always had other plans. I wondered if she was avoiding me or if I was being paranoid but then when we all went to a Christmas event together, her and her DH walked into the hall, looked over at where were were sitting (with loads of free seats around us), then proceeded to sit away from us. This concreted my feelings that she was avoiding me but I had no idea why, apart from a suspicion that my child is quite loud, and hers quite sensitive so thought it might be a clash of personalities with the little ones. Now I'm on maternity leave and both our eldests are at school, still never wants to meet up. Have recently noticed she has been meeting others from our group on her days off but without inviting me. This has really upset me and I've asked her if I've done something to make her avoid me and she denies there is an issue.
I don't really have any close friends these days as over the years the ones I did have, we grew apart due to them moving away. Contact always felt very one-sided on my part so I stopped bothering as much to see if they would carry it on and sadly they didn't. Didn't want to keep bothering them so I just left it.
I have a large family, with a couple of siblings living closeby and others much further afield. The ones that live closeby have not made much effort since I had my 2nd child last April. One sibling has not been in touch to ask how we are, or seen my children since last August when we went to his house for his birthday. My other siblings haven't seen my children since last year either, when they briefly dropped by with Christmas presents but didn't spend much time with us. Nobody even drops us a message to see how the kids are doing.
I just feel like I must be the reason nobody wants to spend time with us. Either I'm unpleasant in some way to be around, or I'm really boring.
2nd child's first birthday is coming up and I feel like it will just be us 4, as my family don't seem interested. It just makes me feel so sad, but I can't shake the feeling that I'm the reason nobody wants to keep in touch with us. I just don't know what to do.
Anyone else been in this situation? What did you do?