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Advice please - Losing hope

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Outtahope · 20/03/2025 07:15

I’ll try and be brief…Just over three years ago I left an abusive relationship and moved to a different part of the country to, hopefully, start a new life, I seemed to be coping reasonably well for a while but after about twelve months I reached a point where everything became too much and I decided to access some of the NHS mental health services you see advertised on Facebook, after an initial assessment I was diagnosed with depression and anxiety, I tried CBT with two different services but it didn’t help at all so I tried counselling, I have now seen five different counsellors, I started to feel more able to cope but recently I seem to have taken a turn for the worse and I’m losing hope of ever recovering, one counsellor advised me to try antidepressants which my GP was reluctant to prescribe but these made me physically ill and I felt no better at all, I’m beginning to feel like a lost cause, I wake up every day filled with dread and my family are at their wits end with me. I just want to function like the normal happy person I used to be, has anyone been in my situation who could offer any advice ?

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Squiggles23 · 20/03/2025 07:47

Hi OP,

Sorry to hear this. ❤️‍🩹

There are lots of different anti-depressants so I wouldn’t give up after trying 1. It took me ages to find the right one but it made a big difference to my life. For me it was sertraline, the side effects for the first two weeks was bad (feeling dizzy & sick). Then it just started to really make me feel better. I bounce back quicker and feel brighter.

Are you getting enough sleep/exercise/daylight/eating healthy ? Often it takes working on everything to feel a bit better.

sending you a virtual hug! 🌷

Eyesopenwideawake · 20/03/2025 07:58

Was there a particular event or trigger after 12 months? What is primary issue - what do you dread when you wake up?

rumred · 20/03/2025 08:09

I'm sorry you're feeling so low, it's grim isn't it. I would look at alternative antidepressants. They can give you head space and a light at the end of the tunnel.
I also found Sunbathing in the Rain by Gwyneth Lewis really helpful.
Good luck with it all.

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