Constantly distracting myself and handhold pleass

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The last few years have been crap. Mum went into a care home with Alzheimer’s, doesn’t recognise me now. Dads health declining, heart failure and arthritis in knees, can barely walk but pushes himself (keep telling him not to, but does he listen)! Son has ADD/ASD and whilst he’s at Uni, I’ve no idea if he’ll ever be able to do a job. His ideas are just not realistic to the real world.

I’ve no friends as such, certainly not close, so no support and no one knows how I’m feeling. I’m always using distraction techniques but today it’s hit me and I feel like shite!

How do,I get myself in a better headspace, happier? Thanks

I'm sorry you're feeling down. That's tough regarding your mum and your dad's health.

I have some suggestions that may give you ideas. Yoga or Tai Chi. Exercise releases endorphins and takes your mind off things. I love Tai Chi and you don't need any equipment, just space to stand.

Can you do a course? I've done literature courses where I have to go prepare each week and it takes my mind off things. Drawing is like meditation and takes your mind off things. Knitting is also good.

How about a club like book club or film club? Hiking group? You could try meetup.com to see what's going on in your area.

CBT might help as it challenges negative thinking. You can do a free course online called Beating the Blues.

Counselling might be beneficial. You can find therapists at BACP. Journalling can help. Just write it all down and get it off your chest. Finally there's always the Samaritans.

Thank you, this is helpful.