I’ve just given up

[Anonsuicidal]

Essentially this. I’ve just given up. I get no joy from life anymore. I just feel numb. I am on antidepressants and have been a long time. I just feel I don’t care anymore about anything or anyone. Every now again I think I’m going to try and feel better. But it’s just fake, I’m faking at being happy. I’m single and 39. I have a good job and own my own home. All suggestions lead me no where and while there is nothing monumental wrong with my life I just feel so sad this is what it is. I have friends and a small family, no children and I live alone. I just want some help to feel differently, really feel differently. As I don’t… won’t spend the next 40 years feeling like this. It’s not living it’s just surviving. Someone please help. Having poor mental health, what are the actual real tips on feeling healthy. I just want to sleep all day everyday, I don’t want to do anything. I can’t engage with anyone and have no interest in anything or anyone. So I spend a lot of time by myself. Even my relationship with my mum is suffering and this has never happened before. But I’ve just shut down. Sorry this is long but I just don’t know what to do. If anyone can help please do.

Hello I’m so sorry you are feeling like this - it must be horrible. Is there anyone you can call/speak to in RL (friend/family member) now? I don’t have any personal experience of this but have friends/family who have suffered from serious bouts of mental illness and recovered. Please call your GP and try to get an emergency appointment (I know this can be challenging). You are not alone op - people love and care about you. Hoping someone with more experience in this area will chip in soon but in the meantime please call a friend/family or the Samaritans - will try to find the number xx

https://www.samaritans.org/how-we-can-help/contact-samaritan/
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Thank you, can I ask how they recovered?

a mixture of things helped - the right professional support mainly and CBT and anti-depressants in some cases. Please call someone op - and get friends/family to support you in getting the help you need. Do you have anyone nearby? Don’t worry about waking them up xx

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I am sorry. Life should have a purpose and a meaning otherwise it's an existence not a life.

You are not alone.

You have already seen your GP who has prescribed antidepressants. Do you like reading? If you do, I suggest you look into this book Why Has No one Told Me This Before? ( link to follow).

Personally, in times of crisis, I chant an ancient Buddhist mantra Nam-Myoho-Renge-Kyo. It's a good breathing exercise if anything else. I always feel calmer and more in control of my life after I have done 20 minutes of chanting. I also go my local Buddhists groups, they are all over the UK. You can find more on pronunciation and meaning on our website SGI-UK (link to follow).

I hope it helps

https://www.amazon.co.uk/Why-Nobody-Told-This-Before/dp/0241529719

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Being in isolation is the worst thing, force yourself to get out a little and try to socialise, go for a little walk everyday, ideally in a park and close to nature. Maybe get your GP to change your meds, as most of the antidepressants cause more depression or sedation and can make you tired and lethargic. You need to keep yourself busy and distracted, try some volunteer work a couple of days in a week, it will make you feel better and help utilise your time in a better way. Look up for any organised walks in your area and join them, they usually do group walks in parks. No one will physically make you do anything, Get up and take the first step and don't give up, push yourself and try to focus on a good mind set by pushing all the negatives to a side, you need to find good in the bad and fight that inner voice that tells you your not worthy because you are and your life is worth fighting for ❤️

Do you like animals? Dogs really helped with one person’s recovery (but huge commitment and you have to like dogs). They found caring for an animal therapeutic (but only took on the commitment when recovering/getting better).

I have felt like this before and it was a reaction to.progesterone. it's a long shot, but I just wanted to check you're not on any hormonal contraception containing progesterone (Mirena coil, the pill). When I stopped taking it I felt better almost immediately. I'm really sorry you are feeling low. Whatever the cause, please hold on because better times are definitely coming x

Thank you for all your advice. It’s the feeling I can’t shake. This has been many years and I feel like I’ve tried everything. Nothing changes. I’m stuck like this.

In my faith we have a concept of karma. Many people I have spoken to believe that 1. karma cannot be changed 2. Buddhism is very complicated. Neither is true.

Since you feel you have already tried everything else, why wouldn't you look into what Buddhism can offer? Mindfulness has its roots in Buddhism, why not go to the source?

I am going to recommend an excellent book Buddha in Your Mirror. It's about £20 from Amazon (used to be £12). However you can get a second hand copy for £3.70 from Amazon website

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Have you tried therapy?
I don't understand how people are happy to accept drugs from doctors without addressing the root cause through therapy and by therapy I mean psychotherapy (not CBT).

It doesn't sound like your medication is working. You need to go back to the GP and either change medication or get them adjusted.

What other strategies do you use? Exercise, diet, supplements, meditation, support groups, hobbies can all help.

I have had therapy and it usually gets me out of the not feeling suicidal part but I’m not exactly thriving, I’m surviving. I exercise as well. Although not recently as I just have lost all feeling to want to. I’ve cancelled all plans as when I do have plans I just don’t want to go and if I force myself I can’t engage and feel I bring people down. I’m at a loss. I’m on sertraline and terrified if I come off it as I’ve tried several times before but I get crippling anxiety and feel I prefer the other option.

Is the other option suicide? OP please contact CALM they have a webchat or helpline. If you're in crisis you can call NHS Direct option 2 and speak to the mental health team.

What you're currently doing isn't working so you need to make changes. You've posted so you're obviously looking for help.

You're isolating yourself which is a bad idea and isn't going to help. Try Hub of Hope and see what's available in your area regarding support.

Please see your GP and discuss your medication, it sounds like you need to adjust it. I don't know if you've heard of mindfulness but it involves CBT like exercises and meditation. Look into it.

Change your diet. Even if you're too depressed to cook there are hacks; stir fries with frozen vegetables, fresh soup in cartons, frozen fruit and yoghurt, Dahl etc Try and get a range of fruit and vegetables every day.

Take magnesium, omega 3, B complex and a good multivitamin. A bath in magnesium flakes before you go to bed.

Try Headspace when you're in bed. It's a meditation apps. Listen to uplifting music.

You'll get there.

I would ask for a review of your mediation. It’s clearly not working for you. You may need a different dose or a different med. CBT also helped me. You need to do some of the things you enjoy when you feel well. Exercise. Get outside. You deserve to feel well.

How is your job going while you're feeling like this op? I would recommend speaking to a health professional again as others have said. I would also be asking myself questions in order to try and get to the bottom of it. Keep trying different approaches and eventually you'll find one that helps. Do you find talking about it helps only in the short term?