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Wedding planning anxiety

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ZingyPeachDog · 27/02/2025 20:49

Since booking our wedding I’ve had sleepless nights and anxiety. It kickstarted with my mum not approving of the way we’re doing it, it’s a small ceremony followed by a big, casual evening reception, and she thinks it’s a lot of money for ‘not a proper wedding’, but we’ve done it this way as we both have a lot of family and friends and it enables us to celebrate with them all, while having an intimate ceremony and also keeping the costs down. So initially I worried we were overpaying, I’ve then worried about almost every detail and currently my big issue is feeling embarrassment over having invited a few colleagues and distant friends who didn’t, or wouldn’t, invite us to their weddings (the idea behind widening the list beyond those we were obligated to invite was it’s more of a big party than a ‘wedding’, and cost per head is relatively low).

So my questions are, how much of a concern do you think it is to have invited people who haven’t/wouldn’t invite us to theirs, is it embarrassing, or am I overthinking it?

and… has anyone had similar anxiety with something like a wedding, if so, how did you deal with it? I have a 3 month old and don’t feel like I have the time for all these worries 😅

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Springadorable · 27/02/2025 21:15

You are definitely overthinking it. Weddings aren't about who owes you a wedding. What about people who have no intention of getting married or are single? Noone thinks twice about inviting them. If you want them there, invite them. If you don't then don't.

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