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Dreaming of abuse - TRIGGER WARNING!!!!!

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Bikerchicky · 20/02/2025 17:50

Apologies if this is not the right place to post, I wasn't sure where to put it.

A few years ago I had several dreams that a close male relative sexually abused me. I use the word "dream" but they were unlike any dream I've ever had. They were like HD dreams - so real I could even smell things cooking and I was aware of all of my thoughts at the time. I could even see the dust particles floating. They really were detailed.
When I had the dreams I was just becoming sexually active. A therapist I was seeing at the time (for anxiety) thought the dreams could be real memories. I've always had a strained relationship with this relative but never known why.
At that time I couldn't deal with that, it would have torn my family apart and I couldn't face that possibility.

Now I've had a similar dream. Same relative, same detail and clarity, same sort of content.

Does anyone know if it is possible to have forgotten abuse but remember it in dreams??? In all of the dreams I'm about 13/14 so not a young child who would forget things.

OP posts:
ashamedtramp · 23/02/2025 07:35

Bikerchicky · 22/02/2025 20:08

I'm so sorry you've been thru that. So do you remember any bits? Have you had flashbacks?

i tend to find that stressful events in my life cause some of the 'memory boxes' which is what i call the gaps, open uninvited. i guess eventually the whole picture will become clear in time.

the thing i found was that i was abused, just not by the person everyone believed it to be, which has been the hardest bit to come to terms with.

so bear in mind, your recollections or memories, might not be or mean what you think them too.

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