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Bad day

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LivelyGoose · 19/02/2025 12:33

Morning all. I'm in desperate need of some hand holding today. I can't stop crying, I'm alone with my 4 1/2 month old baby until 8pm and I can't see how I'm going to make it until then with my sanity intact. I'm crying as I write this and have to leave for my cervical exam in an hour and I just want to curl into a ball and ignore all my responsibilities today.

I've got longstanding mental health problems going back a couple decades. Was always fobbed off with various antidepressants and standard GP advice and it now turns out I may have bipolar disorder or something similar, which I am currently under assessment for after finally being referred to the local mental health team after calling 111 a few weeks ago and explaining that I was going to kill myself and needed to let someone know because I have a baby and his dad doesn't always wake up when he cries. I am very hormonal at the moment as I'm ovulating, which always makes me literally suicidal. I don't have postnatal depression, my son is basically the only thing that makes me want to stick around at this point, it's my brain and everything that's happened in my life up to this now that's the problem. I never feel happy, I don't care what happens to me and I regret having my baby because he's such a joyful, sunny, happy child and he deserves so much better than me as a mother. My partner is incredible, kind, patient, supportive and considerate and consistently pulls his weight with caring for our baby and the house, in addition to having a very full on job. I feel enormous guilt for not being the happy, capable partner he should be moving through life with.

Please somebody tell me something to make today seem survivable.

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LivelyGoose · 19/02/2025 18:44

Well this confirms what I already suspected. I am very alone in this.

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LavenderFields7 · 19/02/2025 18:47

I’m so sorry you are having a rough time of it. Do you have any family or friends near by you can reach out to?

I remember being similar state post partum, it wasn’t until I had replenished my iron and nutrient levels (vit d, folate, zinc, folic acid etc) through copious amounts of supplements that I started feeling a thousand times better. Even now if I notice my mood sinking I have a blood test and usually am low in something.

LivelyGoose · 19/02/2025 22:16

Thank you. I have friends and family but they can't support me with this as it's my brain, not my baby that's the problem. I'm already on a ton of supplements and medication for the rest of my life because I have an autoimmune condition and I have my levels tested regularly.

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namechangingeasy · 19/02/2025 22:27

Sorry you are struggling- I don’t understand- I don’t think anyone can understand someone else’s pain but I’ve had a bad day as well.

CrowsInMyGarden · 21/02/2025 00:12

Hi @LivelyGoose So sorry to hear how you are feeling. Post natal depression can show in all different ways and I know a lot of people think that people who have it don't love or bond with their baby but that isn't always the case. The way that you say you feel guilty and think that your baby and partner deserve better - that really does sound like PN depression. Please do engage with the Mental Health Team and I so hope they will be able to help you. I wish I could give you a big hug. Life can be so rubbish sometimes and I really hope things improve for you.

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