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Is this forever?

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Hopeistheword · 15/02/2025 18:43

Husband has been feeling low for a long time. The past few months he has got worse, he just seems sad all the time and can be snappy over little things. The past couple of weeks he has struggled to get out of bed, he has still gone to work but his mind isn't on the job. His manager told him he needs to go to Doctors. Eventually he did and has just been prescribed setraline. His mum was diagnosed with Alzheimers around October last year, she was exhibiting symptoms for over a year before that so he has been worried about her. On top of that we have been ttc for nearly 3 years so he believes he will never be a father and his mum will never meet her grandchild. I do understand how upsetting this would be. I've tried to be supportive but in some ways I feel I can't do anything right. I've always been a pick yourself up and brush yourself down person. My mum was sectioned when I was 14 so I have experienced mental illness before and my way of coping was to detach and just get on with it. He says I don't understand how he's feeling and I don't because I'm not in his head.. but I am very concerned for him. I've read up on setraline and it says it will reduce the anxiety and lows which is good but that it also mutes emotion in general so he won't be happy either. There's also the sexual disfunction risk and when ttc it isn't going to help with his yearning to be a father. I just feel trapped like this isn't going to be a quick fix, and I don't want to be selfish. But at that same time it's killing me because I've lost the man I fell in love with. I feel so alone. I just want him to be back to his normal self.

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shortoedtreecreeper · 16/02/2025 04:05

Just saw nobody has replied, so just wanted to say sorry you are going through this.It's not forever.Hopefully the setraline will have a positive affect, perhaps the side affects that are worrying about will not affect your husband.
At least he's trying something hopefully it will bring some relief.
Do something nice for yourself,don't forget to think of yourself as well, you've got a lot on with your mother being ill too.

Hopeistheword · 16/02/2025 18:11

Thanks, I just keep hoping he will get better. It's going to be a long road because neither of the things bothering him are going to go away. He can't seem to learn to live with it.

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shortoedtreecreeper · 16/02/2025 18:41

Sorry ment to say it's not forever.Probably a long road,but nothing is forever things change.

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